First move.

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by hitomi, Sep 30, 2007.

  1. hitomi

    hitomi Member

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    Well, there is this guy I like, in my high school, he is so cute and blablabla.
    I dont really know him, and he probably doesnt know me too.
    So I was wondering, do I make the first step and go talk to him?
    Or should I detect the signs when a guy like a girl??? And how can I know?
    I'm really bad with signs???
    Or should I play the game of (the eye contact) like I look at him and smile.
    I dont know, I'm single, and Its been a long time since I was attracted to a guy, so I really want this to work.
    any help????
    tx.
     
  2. Cutted

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    The days are long gone in most cultures when the female should wait for the guy to make the first move. Have a private moment with him and tell him you like him a lot. You might even ask him to do something with you that wouldn't constitute a "date" but would allow you two to be together for a few hours. And go from there.

    What is the worst that can happen? He can say no, that he is not interested in dating you. And this may be due to any number of reasons, many of which have nothing to do with you or how you look or act. Go for it.
     
  3. hitomi

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    Well I dont even know this guy.
    dont you think I should wait for a sign?
    like that he smiles back at me for example??
     
  4. Fallout55

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  5. neponiatka

    neponiatka Senior Member

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    first "play", but if he doesnt react and you want him badly, just do not waste time and come up with some simple friendly talk
    believe me, it's better to start first than to be lost in doubts losing precious time
     
  6. sanja_serbia

    sanja_serbia Senior Member

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    ^ That's true, grab every opportunity that you can....I would ask people who know him about his interests and then think of something that only he can tell you, give you or help you with (yeah, btw, guys looove helping poor girls in trouble ;) ), that's your way to start a conversation....And, who knows, maybe when you actually get to talk to him, maybe you'll realize he's not the one for you.....Believe in yourself and go for it....
    Let us know how it went :)
     
  7. Cutted

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    Sanja Serbia Has It Right...
     
  8. ConfuzzledOne

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    Guys hate being manipulated, too.

    If you just wanna get fucked'n'chucked, then yea, play games like that.

    If you want to hang out with him, get to know him, start something that might last more than a week, then just approach him and ask him to hang out, and when you feel comfortable, break the news to him.

    And if he says no it probably does have something to do with how you look and act. Sorry that's life.
     
  9. hitomi

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    ok,thank you guys, Today I was singing and he passed by, and he stoped walking looked at me and walked away. I think I might talk to him tomorrow.
    wish me luck.
     
  10. hitomi

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    He looks like a metal fan, I'll go with a freind and ask him ''hey,do you listen to metal?'' and that's gonna be a conversation I guess, then I'll probably know a little more abut him and decide what to do later.
     
  11. ConfuzzledOne

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    You were singing in public?

    He probably thought you were insane, hence why he walked away.
     
  12. hitomi

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    No, he basically walked away because the door of the high school was opened, plus hes a metal fan and I was singin a metal song, and my voice isnt that bad I guess.
     
  13. sanja_serbia

    sanja_serbia Senior Member

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    I know lots of guys who get scared if girls make direct approach....
    And, wait, if some cute girl asks you for your help (even if she made up she needs help just to start a conversation with you) you would feel manipulated?.....
    What kind of a man are you?!
    :)
     
  14. ConfuzzledOne

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    I don't hold doors for women or say "ladies" first, so what do you think?
     
  15. sanja_serbia

    sanja_serbia Senior Member

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    I don't know, most men don't do that nowadays.....I don't take it as needed for the guy to hold the door for me.......
     
  16. jo_k_er_man

    jo_k_er_man TBD

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    its common courtesy to hold the door for anyone..
     
  17. tomtomp

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    [​IMG]i like metal [​IMG] what song where you singing..
     
  18. Formertechno34

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    Metal kicks ass
     
  19. audiovisions

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    just talk to him. Its nice to have the girl make the first move once in a while.
     

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