ok my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. this is the first real boyfriend ive had so all this is relatively new. so some times i get bored with and wish things were different. especially with other guys. i see some one i think is cute and i want to flirt and goof around but i have a boyfriend. there is this one guy i work with and i think about him alot. when i see him at work i get giddy and have ideas, but i then feel extremely guilty because i have a boyfriend. i sometims wish i could just goof off with him a little bit and still be with my boyfriend. i mean im only interested in other guys for lust, and i wish i could have both! i mean i love my bf a whole lot----but i still have the urg to flirt with others what am i supposed to do???
talk to him that simple if hes understanding & all he maybe fine with it but you'd hafta be fine withhim wanting more as well since it is just lust though thres the risk of losing a relationship for just random physical things.. sor me tho the opposite situation was what i ended up in, i didnt want more but they wanted me to have more then they felt they could give (both are incredible so couldnt possibly imagine wanting morethen either)so the reasons were more selfless thenselfish..just seems to work better if itssomething u want to give the other, not something u want for yourself despite how the other may feel.
"i sometims wish i could just goof off with him a little bit and still be with my boyfriend:" it seems to me your looking for people to tell you its ok and to go for it. i dont think its a good idea to flirt with other guys if you feel guilty about it... if you feel guilt and know it, your obviously going to fair or want to. idk your poor boyfreind.. think about what you want and chose either or, you cant have both. if you want a meaningful relationship then you cant go off flirting other guys. if you want many meaninless flings then lose the boyfreind its not fair to him
yuo said first love and all be honest take a break see fif your ment to be or not you have the rest of you life to figer it out if he really loves you and you you will come back if not your better off than draging out the pain and always wondering .....but what the hell do i know lol
Fuck your co-worker in the back room! You're not married! Youth is supposed to be about having fun and adventure. Don't get to be 60 and wish you had screwed around more.
yea lone wolf..right, get into the habbit of dishonnesty & cheatting so you'll definately have successful relationships throughout your life sorry i disagree there.. but if your really honnesst..& both open minded & understanding..theres no reason ya cant have more..and not screw everything up but how well do u know your partner? how accepting would he be?
ok well, i care about him a whole lot, and i dont want to hurt him. Right now im having problems with my family and he has been the only one that is really there for me. but at the same time he doent know how to give me what i need, naive? i suppose. and ive never had a relationship until him, and i always told myself id be true to my partners. and i really dont know how to show him how i feel without hurting him or doing it wrong. i would want to be with him in the future when i settle down, because relationships now make me feel chained down. as much as he has helped me escape the tortures of my family i also feel trapped, and thats the problem. I still love himm (and always will) but there still is that little trapped lingering feeling. but thanx yous guys for tha advice
"yea lone wolf..right, get into the habbit of dishonnesty & cheatting so you'll definately have successful relationships throughout your life" Sorry if I don't have the same puritanical attitude you do. Relationships begin and end. Definitely sounds like this one has run its course.
run its course? she says she'll allways love him, wants to be with him when she settles down..where the hell do u get that its over & done? if shes just honnest with him, explains exactly how she feels, & is willing to give him his freedom to exploreaswell, theres absolutely no reason that she cant haveall shewants, keep him & havea long fulfilling relationship. but it takes alot of special care..it takes understanding..& it takes honnesty but she'll have to understand that he may not like the idea..its risky for sure itall depends on the individuals invlved for me, the conversation was easy, basicly something like this i dont mind if u see other people, i just want you to be happy yea i feel pretty much the same..but id kinda liketo know who your seeing, just to be fairly sure you wont be hurt.. yea..exactly the conversation went pretty much like that with both girls..they really admire & respect eachother..& it just worked for us it just was the easiest thing possible..just came natural.. but theyre very special girls.. cant say it would be that easy for most people
it sounds less like you want to have more, and more like you don't want a commited relationship at all if it were simply a matter of him not knowing how to please you, I would say tell him but this sounds more like you just aren't ready for commitment at this point look at your choices: *keep things as they are - and stay unhappy, yet keep him unharmed, while he can growingly sense that you aren't happy and it starts to affect him more and more *cheat on him - in which you feel guiltier and run a risk of hurting him terribly, and is just a generrally shitty thing to do *break it off - which will certainly hurt him some, but then you can have other people, and remain friends *ask for an open relationship - probably hurt him maybe not as much as the last two, but still reasonably so, maybe end and/or ruin the relationship, maybe not, depending on him, if not you would be able to fool around but you would still be commited to not hurting him *ask for a "break" - I just think this is generally cruel and selfish, and should be saved for when it really sounds like the best option, but personally, I don't think it would be
Myfriend and i agree that your feelings are perfectly normal and that its like that whether you are with someone for a week to 10 years
You're 18, or so you say. Go for it. Life is short, the art of sex is shorter. Try the other guys, if he gets angry, so what.
