Venting And Questions About Crush

So I have a crush on this guy, and I have for a while. I first met him through one of my really good friends. At the time he was really into her but she was still sort of waiting on one of her old boyfriends. He is so much like me and I really liked him. So I told her and she said she was thinking about going out with him, but she wasn't sure yet. So I just told her to let me know what was going to happen when ever she figured it out. Now while she's making up her mind about him I develop this huge crush on him and I think I'm falling for him. Anyway she ends up going out with him and I end up telling her that I have this crush on him. She really has no problem with it because I kind of underplay it, and I think oh it'll be no problem cause I've never really had a big crush on anybody and I think I'll just get over it. So a few weeks go by and it definately hasn't gotten any easier, it's only gotten harder to see them together. Meanwhile she's telling me that he told her he loves her and he's telling me what he's planning for this elaborate date when he's not grounded. And she tells me that he thinks I'm really cool and he really wants to be friends with me and of course I still want to be friends with him. But now it's just getting harder and harder and I have no idea what the fuck to do. I was going to talk to her about it because she asked me what was wrong but I don't know how to say it and I know if I start talking about it I'll just end up cursing the whole time. I wrote her a note telling her about it but I never gave it to her because I don't want to fuck anything up. Any ideas or imput about what I should do would be greatly appreciated. Seriously I am open to anything at this point. Thanks for reading and sorry it ended up being so long.

Peace

 

Remind me of past days...

Get over it, if the guy love her really, he won't turn over you. So, your chances are pretty small. If you tell her, you won't get the guy and you'll lose a friend.

Sometimes you got to shut up and swallow the pill. There must be plenty of guys waiting for you, find one and have some fun.

 

yeah i wouldnt say anything either
but if he loves her after only weeks? i think thats a bit too quick for them

 

give it a few more weeks....most relationships at your age dont last more than a month or so. And if it lasts longer than a few more weeks, then look for someone else and try and tell yourself that he isnt available....good luck darlin

 

yeah i know where your coming from, it hurts when you care for someone and theyre with someone else and you have the suppicion that they may like you more than that other person but you might have blown your chance, its even worse when they leave the country with someone else, even worse when you cant tell them how you feel in person because usually theyre always with that person soo you give them a letter explaining your feelings but they definitally havent read it yet and you know they might change their mind about how they feel about that other person and want to be with you. Ive been going through alot the last week and im not quite sure what to think anymore

 

If he was really into her before they started dating you need to back off and let them be. Hang out with different friends once in a while so you won't have to see the two of them together.

Basically it isn't worth ruining a friendship over a crush. Crushes burn hot and furious for a while and then one day you realize it just fizzled out.

Just think how you'd feel if the situation was reversed. You probably wouldn't appreciate your close friend having feelings for your boyfriend.......

 

Yea I guess you guys are right...But she already knows, although I'm not sure if she knows the extent of it or not, and she already told me that she really doesn't care...Although the thing that really bothers me is that she knows I have a crush on him and she still tells me all this stuff that i'm sure she knows is hurting me, because she's been in the same situation before...And I guess she bothers me because she's still all over this other guy and she cheated on him once already, and I'm thinking what the fuck, you have a great guy that really likes you and you're going to fuck it up over this guy you went out with a year ago, that has been going out with the same girl for 9 months!? And it's not that I want him to dump her and go out with me it's just...I don't know...I guess I just have never felt this way about anybody else and I want something to happen, maybe not with him but I just want something to happen...Everybody else is going out with somebody and I'm tired of being the fucking third wheel...

 

I know how you feel and I really hope things get better for you...

 

Yea right...I wish...

 

thanks mysterygirl i appriciate the support

 

If thats the average.. haha shit. I had an almost two year relationship from when I just turned 15 to a few months before I turned 16. But thats off topic. Just suprised people of that age last so short in relationships.

If he already liked her in that way befoer they got together, you can expect to atleast last a couple of months. You can try to press down the feeling as much as you can; ignore it, try and find other people to like. And maybe, maybe in a few months/years it can be your turn. Keep the friendship; because its always a better basis for the future.
This kind of happened to a friend of mine (twice) only I was the person who ended up with that persons best friend. And he had truoble with it in the beginning and chose not to see me for a few weeks. After that though; he got ok with it and got over it completely so don't worry, either the feelings may pass, and there's still the open unknown future.