should I have yelled at these kids?

yeah i'd tell them to throw the rocks at windows
i'd show them how to aim at windows too

but throwing rocks at ducks is sooooo not cool, i'd have said something for sure

 

i've had to deal with a lot of silly people from a discipline kind of role and, no offense to your experience. But I can only imagine the reason you have found differently is because of the way you do it.

It's not a matter of literally talking to them as if they were adults, but there is definitely a way, it's not to easy to describe, that talking to kids, even "inner city" ones isn't a problem at all.

The reason is that regardless of age or anything, everyone has an idea when they are being respected or disrespected, spoken to as an equal or talked down at, yelled at and talked at, or talked to. And people can and DO respond to it.

They key is checking YOUR baggage at the door before even entering into the conversation.

 

i said in my first post that their is no need to yell. but they are not adults and you can't talk to them like they are adults. they won't follow and wont' be able to reason with what your saying to them.

you have to make it a point to break it down for them because they are kids who are developing into adults, but they aren't adults yet...so you can't talk to them as if they are because they wont' understand. you dont' have to yell

 

I don't mean talking to them like adults in the sense of fancy talk... all I mean is, treat them as your equal.

 

i never said i had a problem with it. you don't yell at them, nor do you talk to them as adults. thats all i said. i don't disrespect the kids i am supervising. but i dont' talk to them like they are adults. because they are not. i give them respect, but again, they are not adults.

theres a reason why i'm one of the 3 people at my camp who deal with the disclipline of the kids.

 

You should have yelled them

 

It is because you touch their naughty parts and make them happy after you make them cry, no?

 

then we need to have a definitive meaning to the phrase "treat them as adults"

i give respect. i never said i didn't.

 

Well, then we mean the same thing.

Ha!

 

i haven't made any kid cry, nor do i touch them in their naughty parts...



and this "no?" shit is really fucking annoying...and fucking stupid

 

You are hostile and defensive, no? Your inability to punctuate and capitalize words is annoying and stupid. Also your need to be profane is rather irritating.

 

thanks for the fucking grammar lesson pops

asshole

 

werd.

 

You are more than welcome, son. It is very clear you were not paying attention, no?

 

wicked lame

and no, the need for perfect grammar and spelling on a message board is not at the top of my priority list of things to pay attention to

 

Just as the need to communicate in a way that pleases members of a message board is not at the top of any of my lists.

 

I would've thrown rocks at the kids, not to hit them, but to make a point.

I was at the zoo the other day and I saw some kids chasing geese and trying to throw shit at them.
So I started yelling at the kids, who were pretty young, to stop chasing them.
Which eventually got me into a fight with their parents and me telling them to teach their kids respect...and blah blah blah.
She told me not to tell her how to raise her kids...and eventually I had to walk away before it got ugly...

 

I'm just wondering how you knew they were African.

 

There are Americans with black skin too.

 

Yes we do.