When you miss someone real close to you...

and you have to wait along time till you get to see them again, what do you to deal with the waiting? right now im reading on the road - jack kerouac and it has been helping a bit, also ive been making music and cooking new things

 

Call them?

 

lol, I don't miss people very often... I'm just weird like that. But when I do miss someone, I cry and generally just feel miserable, lol. I also try to distract myself - I go for a walk, write, sleep, watch tv, take a shower, make/decorate a card to send to my family, etc.

P.S. I'm reading On the Road, too! ...along with about 100 other people on hipforums, lol.

 

i would but that persons travelling right now without a phone, and it was the forums that convinced me to pick up that book

 

Too bad you're not telepathic. I guess that's just something to work on for the next time you two are apart, lol.

 

well we still are apart I can still work on it, i doubt ill get it too work though haha

 

I dated this girl for 8 months, before we even started dating she had planned and paid for a trip to London. She left for the UK in April and will be back on the 23rd of November. (Three days before the Led Zeppelin concert) You have no idea how much i´ve I missed her over the past months... She is with out a doubt very loyal but I cant stand seeing pictures of her looking fantastic (on extasy) for example at a night club...
Endless thought race through my mind, I´ve been drinking like an Irish to keep me stable... ce la vi !!

 

yeah i talked to that girl today, and shes met somebody and now shes going to austraila soo Im trying to really forget about her even though shes like one of my best friends and i really like her

 

i talk to other people - get my mind of it...

 

He wants her, thats why.

 

yeah its a weird situation, i have strong feelings for her, i dont want to forget about her its just Im feeling hurt that she went to another guy, i dont want to think about it for awhile thats just where im coming from, i still want to be friends with her, even if we were dating or not i would still consider her one of my best friends, its just hard knowing that probably my only chance with her went out the door, it hurts i really care about her

 

I can get where you are. (I won't say that I understand, because as the old universal rant goes: "NO ONE UNDERSTANDS ME!!!1!" )

I'm in a long-distance relationship, have been for almost two years now, it gets especially rough when all the phone calls and emailing goes out the window, for one reason or another. What works for me is happy memories, and branching out to new things (like it sounds like you've been doing). It'll still hurt, though, and the crazy times will come.

It sucks that your romantic sitch seems to suck. But you sound like you can definitely stick it out.

 

yeah, the sad thing is theres alot more to the story than i can share on here, its just ive done alot for her,helped her out when she really needed it and she didnt give me any warning or anything she just dropped the news on me over the phone the other day that she was leaving with another guy, and the thing is shes the first girl ive felt this strongly for that i havent been totally shy around "im usually real shy around girls i like", she makes feel that comfortable around her and then she does this, i still want to be friends with her, i consider her to be one of my best friends after only like 3 months. Id rather have her in my life as a friend than not in my life at all, its just hard to have all this stuff happening and i dont really get to even tell her my own opinion and feelings towards the situation and my feelings towards her even though she knew how i felt about her before she went on her trip across canada before she called me about her going to austraila. And the worst thing is I think if i would have went on the trip across canada with her everything would be totally different

 

I knew one girl who I really liked. I mean there was nothing I didn't like about her. I pretty much watched her grow up, and she was my best friends sister. I eventually ended up taking her out on her first date where I thought we really connected. I couldn't stand the thought of being without her. That night however, I took her back about 20min late, and her mother was pissed. Over a period of about 3 months I wrote her letters and such because she wasn't allowed to see me because of her parents. We were writing "love" letters to each other, flirting and what not, talking about life, and then Eventually she told me she "just wanted to be friends" because of her parents. To me that was devastating. Her parents told me that they wanted her to focus on school, and now she has a boyfriend who she's "practically engaged to" (yea. . . ). I cared so much for her, and loved being around her so much. But when I heard she was dating someone else it just destroyed me for a short while, that she could just drop me and move on like it was nothing. I got over it, found another girlfriend, but she ended up cheating on me with two other guys in a 3mth period. Every relationship I've ever had has been fucked up and my advice to you is: If she can't appreciate you, drop that bitch, and find another, because there are good women who will stay loyal, but there are so few.

She also wanted to just "be friends" or whatever, and that was just immpossible and I guess she couldn't understand that. My feelings were so strong for he that every time I saw her after that I would have to ignore her, not because I didn't want to talk to her, but because it hurt so much to even look at her, to know what we could have had, and then all that shit happened. God, it's really depressing to even talk about it again.

 

the thing is, shes living her life and i dont know if when she comes back ill have a chance with her but i wouldnt just tell her to fuck off, i still care about her and want to be friends with her, she considers me to be a best friend and maybe more, but if its just friends you know what i can suck it up be friends with her

 

Does it matter? Are you really going to trust her? I used to think the same thing after this girl got with that guy. I thought, well maybe if they break up I'll have a chance. Now I realize if they did break up what happened between us would make me not trust her, because if she can't even argue with her parents and hold out long enough for us to be together, what kind of gf would she be? This girl also considered me her best friend. I moved up and down on her myspace friends list so many times it made my eyes jump, and I just gave up. I got better shit to do than sit around waiting on something that won't happen, and even if there was a chance with her I wouldn't take it. Fuck that shit, there are better girls out there.

 

yeah who knows dude, i just want to give her a chance, itd hurt me more to have her not in my life at all than thinking i cant trust her because i dont know if i can trust her or not, i would like to give her the benefit of the doubt and hopefully she doesnt do anything to hurt me anymore

 

Drugs, alcohol and/or suicide.

 

Ive also been in the same situation, I bet you think she is the only girl youll ever love and she has to be yours.. etc
Experience and time will prove you wrong, there probably are (not many) other compatible girls you will like even more ! So take it easy man... its terrible to wait but theres nothing we can do.