So I recently started college, Im an 18 year old freshman almost 19 and I'm still a virgin. I've always been kind of shy/reserved around people I dont know and I dated a few girls in HS but it was usually short and nothing much came of it. I didn't really go back to parties then either so that didn't help the whole virgin thing along much either. I don't know why but I've always had somewhat of a problem talking to girls, mostly I can't do openers (start a conversation). I have no clue what to just go up and say to them. The main way i've been meeting girls lately is going to parties with a few friends and after a few beers i get talkative but i'm still fairly reserved. I see all these guys around me getting the cute girls and I can't seem to pull anything off. I've always kind of been the nice/good guy I guess though, I'm somewhat of a romantic. I've never been one to just hook up randomly and I guess I was hoping on changing that. I wanted there to be a connection between me and the girl which is prolly why i'm still a virgin. Maybe parties just aren't my scene for this sort of thing then and i should meet women otherwise but I'm still too shy to just go up and talk to the girls I like usually. So is there anyone out there who can throw a few pointers my way or just suggestions about this stuff cause I feel pretty social inept, and well in this day in age, kind of a loser for being a virgin :/.
What? Why are you trying to change the fact that you don't like to hook up randomly? That's a GOOD thing; do you really think the world needs anymore man-whores? Do you think a girl is going to respect you more if you have emotionless sex? Chances are you're not going to find love at a college party. That's where people go for alcohol and meaningless sex. I'm 21 and still a virgin, mostly for the same reasons as you. I know I'm a girl, so it's probably different, but I honestly don't know anyone who would judge you for it. People who judge people because of their sexual history are the ones who are lame. I know guys my age who are still virgins, it's honestly not the big deal everyone seems to think it is. Don't change yourself to fit into the mold! We have enough boring people in this world who desperately want to fit in!
thanks I think that what I needed to hear . I've always been different and unique, I'm not one to fit into the mold. Right now I'm at a big college in the bible belt (Oklahoma) but only cause of money constraints. I've got the act scores and grades to go elsewhere and I'm hoping to go to Warren Wilson College next year so I can hopefully fit in with a group of people more like these forums.
well girls don't like guys that don't know what they are doing sexually, that's for damn sure. and some meaningless party sex would at least give a little much needed confidence
almost every boyfriend ive met since i started university, ive met through the internet. okcupid and plentyoffish are two free type ones that ive used in the past and had pretty good success with. if nothing else, you get to practice meeting peopel (first dates) and talking to them (emails and then the face to face or phone interaction stuff)
here's a fairly recent pic of me just for the hell of it. I'm about to let my hair start growing out again and its really curly so it sort of jew fro's up but I'm thinking bout dreads this time.
I wouldn't worry too much about not meeting girls at parties...that's not to say that there aren't any chilled out down to earth girls at them, it just seems in my experience that it's a lot of meat-head dudes chasing stupid freshmen girls who are still the bitches they were in highschool trying to get all the attention, I'm sure when you've been to the parties you must have seen at least the ONE girl who is always there going "I'm sooooo trashed" and stumbling around after even just smelling alcohol vapors or something along those lines...do you really wanna fuck that? you just seem the type that needs a girl who is his equal, just a chilled out honest girl, she'll come along.
yeah, there's plenty of those there always but I'm just like nope not worth it. Thanks for the support everyone. Hopefully I'll be transferring to a smaller hip LAC like evergreen in WA or WWC in NC where everyones more down to earth.
Just sleep with everyone, that's what nearly e v e r y o n e else does at college. I have never known of anyone to stay a virgin once at college to this day. Least in US
dude, I've been there not the college part, but the itching virgin part I was so confused and lost I had my morals and what not, and I knew I wanted to lose it to someone special, someone beautiful to me in every way but on the other hand, I just wanted to fucking lose it I knew very little people my age that weren't sexually active, and I love porn and jerking off and whatnot and at one point, I was like, "fuck it" then, I met a girl, I started talking to her, wasn't really sure what was going on, seemed like more of a friendship, but it was refreshing, new, made me happy, and made me forget all about my frustration I am now in a very serious, very happy relationship with her, and I am so so so so so glad I didn't waste it on some bimbo, when I can share that very special moment with her when she's ready (PS, I don't think virginity itself is really all that important, but in many ways, it is)
