Back in May I lost my sister to liver cancer. She left behind my niece 19 and my nephew 18. The nephew seems to be handling it well he recently moved out of my house in to his own place because he wants to have more responsibility and not have to follow house rules. My niece recently moved in with my folks because her and the bf broke up and that was who she is living with. Though she spends 90% of her time with me. I am glad we are that close. But I am having to deal with questions I am not sure how to answer not having children myself. Last night she asked again why does mom have to be gone?? What do you say to that? I told her I guess god decided it was her time but to remember she was not gone she was there in spirit and was always watching over her. Was I wrong???? She will send me texts some times like I can't do this anymore I need my mom. Or I want my mommy. If mom was here things would be different. My sister's birthday just passed and it was a hard day for everyone and my niece said she was glad she was not the only one to break down and I told her that I felt her pain of Jane being gone and that there would probably still be some hard days but I was there to help her through?? But how do you deal with a teenanger losing a parent what is the right answer to the question of why? Thank you for any insight or help you can give I have never lost a parent so I donot truely know what it feels like or what she is going through.
I lost my dad at 13. There is never a right answer. What you said to her would have made me feel better though. See if maybe she'd keep a daily journal and write in it every time she thinks about her. Writing helped me a lot.
I will suggest it. She seemed to be ok last night but the these texts and calls come in waves generally after a stressfull day or around a holiday. Her mom passed 2 days after she graduated and here mom was unable to attend and it was 6 days after my nephews 18 birthday so I know it has to be really hard on them because of that alone along with just the loss its self.
