My birthday was 3 days ago, and so far it was the worst one ever. I thought it would fix everything...i would feel loved by my friends and that would cheer me up, because I've been pretty stressed for the past month. But i am hit harder then ever before cause no one was able to come to my birthday party... and one of my best friends got sick and she claimed it was good enough that she told me happy birthday over the phone... actually, i was the one who called her anyway. :\ I do not feel cared for or appreciated at all... compared to what i did for her for her last birthday this is just so devastating...she keeps telling me I should have the birthday party next week instead, when everyone is available. But why even bother? Me and her have been having tensions for quite a while now, mostly because she just got her first boyfriend and never has time for me anymore. That kills me, because I was always there for her, we were very very close, I was the one who talked to her for hours and hours when she was scared to go on the first date...And now? Today was the day when I was supposed to have my party, but here i am sitting at home, my head hurts from crying for so long and I have absolutely no idea what to do next. My friend keeps telling me things are going to get better, but every time it just gets WORSE and WORSE. I can't stand it anymore.
Cheer up, it sounds like you didn't organize your party. Take advice from your friends and do it a day when everyone's available.
Okay, as you get older, birthdays come and go and become less important. But I don't think this has a thing to do with the birthday party anyway. (Although Happy 16th Birthday to you, even though it doesn't feel like it.) The first boyfriend coming between the two best friends is a tough situation. I've been there. Sad thing was that I was in love with my best friend, and was hurting double-time. Be a good friend even when she's not because I garuntee you this probably won't last, and you'll be the one that she turns to when it falls apart. Until then, you need to discuss your feelings with her rationally and explain how you're feeling. try to avoid the whole "You like him better than me" scenario... that doesn't ever go over well. And try not to be too harsh with her. If your friendship is going to last through this, you two are going to have to grow together, even if that means have seperate friends that you chill with while she's off with her bf. My friend and I are still friends after fourteen years but we did take a few breaks here and there as we needed them. You two can make things work.
birthdays are excuses for someone to spend time with their friends, not a reason for their friends to rearrange their schedules completely to hang out on one particular day have a small get together the weekend after and call it an unbirthday party or something. double check when people are available before you commit to one particular day
