my friend cheated on his girlfriend...

with me..
we slept together as just friends with benifits but he started dating this chick.. and we still play fight which usually ends up in sex. its happened twice. There is no feeling involved i don't like him in the sense that he likes his girlfriend we're just very close friends.. so should i feel bad?

they've only been dating 2 months and has happened 3 times. she lives about 2 hrs away...

 

Yes.

 

yes, you should feel bad... youre helping him cheat and the fallout is ognna suck

 

i do feel bad, and ive stoped sleeping over (stoped it before it starts). We've just been such great friends for so long and then outta nowhere it was like hey i have a girlfriend now. she knows we were friends with benifits and she even knows that we had sex on his birthday (the day they started dating) because steve told her (my best friend) i don't start it either... i also dont stop it... im not sure what to do. i wanna tell her but if she breaks up with him then he is gonna be pissed at me. should i just keep my mouth shut since it didnt mean anything? i dont wanna lose my friend but it's akward around her. im like hey i like you and think your good for my friend but then its like yea.. your boyfriend likes having sex with me when your home.. wtf?

 

this is why i prefer an open relationship. shit happens. it's all love. you don't own another person. but lying sucks. it's not the fucking that hurts someone, it's the abused trust. be kind to people. people have feelings.

 

I cheated on my ex with his best friend.

Let me tell you...when a friendship is ruined, a friendship is ruined.

If she finds out, you are screwed.

 

I would tell him that you think it's fucked up, and if he wants to do it again, he has to tell her first.

other than that, just stay out of it

 

dude i know... =(

 

Seems best if you do stop doing it unless he is willing to ask her if its cool and she tells you its cool. Other than that just stop, no more dont say anything as its not fair to hurt her and maybe he will wake up too!

 

i am gonna speak frankly, so don't read it if you want a pat on the back.

since you can shag him without any "feelings", why should you give a flying fuck about anyone else's feelings? you clearly don't have too much "do unto others as you would be done by" concern. don't kid yourself - either do what you like without the self-doubt, or realise that the doubt is there cos you know deep down you are being shitty, and helping others to be and/or feel shitty.

(the reason i know is that long ago, i was where you are, and then, when i snapped out of it, i got to feel it from the other side. it's bad both ways).

 

How nice. You were a stupid enough bitch to help the dumbfuck cheat, and now you're being even more of a selfish little shit and you won't tell his girlfriend because you're afraid people will be mad at you. You're a douchebag.

 

^ point taken

I'd prolly be a douche bag, in that case too though =P

 

yea its selfish. i dont want to lose my friend. we agreed it "never happened" and i don't spend the night and vice versa. shit happens and although i do feel bad theres not much i can do about it now. except for tell her and have all hell break lose and then friends will have to "pick sides" or just let the water calm and pass.

 

Why do you want to tell her? Sounds like "misery loves company" thing to me.

Telling her hurts her, not you. If she slaps the crap out of you...well you have it coming. She will have to deal with all the wonderful feelings of being cheated on, and she did nothing wrong. You want to "come clean" to salvage your own feelings, not because you truly care about her. How do I know this? You screwed HER man.

He needs to tell her than he can't be faithful and end things. Why risk HER getting an STD because he can't control his dick!

You need to be a better friend! If one of my friends did this I would loathe the ground they walked on! You can find other guys to fuck! Friends partners are OFF LIMITS unless otherwise agreed on.

 

Seems like he doesn't really love his gf...

 

Who cares! Fuck 'em all (literally...)

 

So.... why is he dating her and not you? You obviously get along enough to be friends.

 

because i don't want to date him. i don't like him like that and he doesn't have those types of feelings for me either.

 

she isn't my friend, to be honest i've only met her twice. once at his birthday party and once when they started dating like months ago. she's never around

 

he sounds like a creep to me....better stop fool'n around unless you want a raging case of crotch crickets.