It was my boyfriend's eighteenth birthday last week, and he had a pretty huge party. It went well, he drank way too much though and got absolutely wrecked. He ended up getting very emotional and crying all over me for at least an hour, telling me things about his past that he swore he had never told anyone. This was all very strange for me, because I am not someone who opens up like that. I know he was drunk and he says it meant nothing, but I can't forget it, or the image of him crying. It was pretty awful. He also got really rough when we had sex that night, despite the fact that I was telling him to stop because it was really painful. I understand he was drunk, but I sort of can't get past it. Obviously this is something I need to deal with, as it's starting to affect our relationship. But I don't know how to deal with it... I can't exactly talk to him about it any more because of the circumastances. He's apologised for the stuff he remembers, and he has nothing more to say. So how do I deal with it?
sorry if this sounds harsh, but being drunk is no excuse for being rough with someone against their wishes. i`m sure quite a few,if not all, of the lady members here will agree, that if it happens once, then that`s once too often. he either needs to seek help, stop drinking to excess, or you need to kick his ass to the kerb.
you should explain that you were in pain when he was having sex with u or how will he know that he's hurt you good luck in talking with him try, i know its difficult but u will feel better after it though x
this is why alcohol is so "underrated" in terms of danger. It brings out the bad side of people.....i think you should tell him to start drinking in more moderation (atleast when hes with you) because you are not comfortable with him not being able to control himself. or just dont have sex with him when he gets that wasted. Dont reward him for bein gay lol
I don't think there's anything wrong with the guy crying, everyone has emotions, and we all need to get them out sometime. As for being rough despite you telling him to stop, that IS a problem. I agree with Lizzie, tell him that he hurt you and see what happens from there. If you're in a relationship you should always be able to talk about things like that.
just tell him you dont like when he gets that wrecked. pass all the supid shit he did that night. dont fret on it. if he really loves u, hell understand and control his drinking
he drank once and now he's a drunk. pssh. on his 18th birthday. lol come on. however the rough sex part is not cool, seriously. you told him to stop, and he heard you. i mean he was sober enough to stay hard/conscious and keep balance, so it's likely he heard you. not cool. advice: do some honest thinking, only you can make that decision. talk to him straight, he should be honest, if he is not, well...
