So... my boyfriend and I got into an argument about how i think his brother is stupid for buying things he doesnt need while hes in debt. Heres the situation. Hes 21, him and hid gf are living with his mom, his gf is unemployed. He bought a 75 inch flat screen tv, a ps3, a wii, hes always buying new video games, like does anyone else think thats stupid? I just want to make sure im not the only one. my boyfriends yelling at me for saying hes not being smart and hes saying hes gonna buy the same shit. and im not goin for that if were gonna be staying together. Idk just gimme your opinions.
yup, your position makes sense to me and your boyfriend doesn't seem to mature to be yelling at you for such a thing... =/
Dunno. Defend your family. And frankly, your boyfriends finances aren't really that much of your business.
I would have to say that depends on how serious the relationship is. Finances are a major cause of divorce in the u.s. (with it's 50% divorce rate) if people don't have the same priorities in that area as bf/gf how can they hope to when they are husband and wife? it is a valid concern in a serious relationship if they are just fuckbuddies who pretend they have a relationship to make the meat masturbation <not to suggest that you ARE mrs. krinkle, this is just the contrast to set the rule, and I am going for the furthest contrast I can, it is my way> seem acceptable to modified morals, then, sure, finances are none of the other persons business. my .02
Your boyfriend's brother sounds like a reckless immature idiot. You are entitled to your opinions but your boyfriend is also entitled to back up his brother even if he realises his brother is an idiot.
My boyfriends finances are definitely my business. Considering we've been together for two years that makes him a potential marriage partner, which is something ive definitely considered. If were married well be sharing money, and no way hes gonna be buying tvs and shit when theres much more important things to be worrying about. I want to live a happy life, not a life full of debt. This is something that is effecting my choice of whether or not ill stay with him.
lol yea it is. its totally awesome and fun having it to watch movies n play video games and stuff as long as its not my money. But it is stupid for my boyfriends brother to buy that kinda stuff. And if my boyfriend ever does that with our money, i wont be all that happy.
what your bf's bro does with his money is none of your business. What your bf does with his does become more of a concern for you as the relationship becomes more serious as that can impact your finances and your priorities.
When you have joint accounts, it's your business. When you don't, his credit rating doesn't affect yours. You aren't buying houses together. Hell, at 17, I doubt you're even living together, so you aren't even counting on his rent.
Its not a matter of right now, its a matter of how things are going to be in the future. If he says in the future hes gonna be buying bigass tvs and all this expensive techie stuff when well have bills to pay for thats when it matter. I agree, its none of my business now, I dont have any right to tell him what to do with his money. Im just worried about the future. I dont wanna be stuck in some giant hole of debt. thatd suckkkk
I think that your bf's brother could use your "guidance" so don't be shy cause youre comming from the right place.
You and the BF need to sit down at some point. First off if I were you I would keep my money separate, married or not. You can have a joint account but he should be allowed his play money and you yours. If he wants to buy a $7000.00 TV thats his business. Bills get paid first. Your a Female, when he dumps you for his trophy wife you get it all anyway. Sorry, just a little reality.
hey, you're young. just think about what it's gonna be like in a couple years when he realizes he can't afford all that stuff anyway. I know that from experience, probably from in his shoes...
I think that your head is on pretty straight when it comes to finances. I know 40 year olds that can't figure out how to budget. So, good for you! As for the boyfriend's brother...you need to remember that "family comes first" and not force your boyfriend to choose sides. Men love their toys, and you will get used to that I am sure you have dreams about the perfect wedding dress, the perfect furniture or the perfect house. In many ways it is the same thing. When I walk by a sweet car I think "when I make more money I am going to buy me one" and for a little while I can fantasize about where I would drive it. None of that means I will ever own the car, but damn it feels good just thinking about it. Make sense? Just roll your eyes and move on when his brother does something you disagree with, it'll make family situations easier, and cause fewer issues in your relationship. Afterall, your relationship is what you should be focusing on. Let mommy and the unemployed girlfriend worry about the brother.
