Before I get to the issue I want to give some background on my/our sex life. We've been together almost 9 months I was a virgin, and so was she, well kinda. She had sex on spring break(a month after we started dating and coincedantly, on my fucking birthday) with an old friend who was hanging around her a lot. she had planned on leaving me for him until they tried to fuck. He has a chode, about 2 1/4" long and couldnt penetrate her so she left his house laughing and came here. I totally understand why she did it and I don't blame her, I was never spending time with her and she thought I was igniring her. We are over that now and just see it as something to laugh at. The first time we had sex, it was really dead and not very romantic. I was out of shape and couldn't go fast enough for her to cum and ended up literally passing out. After our first time, it got better, and better each time but still no orgasms. She never really told me until recently that she couldn't cum when we fucked or when I went down/fingered her. She told me it wasnt fault she couldnt cum and it all felt really good, but she had a problem of getting random thoughts when she was going to cum. Now, we figured out a way to clear her mind before doing anything sexual: cuddling, making out, taking a bath together, dry humping etc. Now every time I finger her she has a full body, squirting orgasm I didnt cum when we fucked until a month or so after she started cumming. Then i was having a problem NOT cumming too soon when we fucked.(i dont have that problem now) We havn't been having sex for a long time since we dont have any rubbers. Belive me, they are hard to get. At first we had 24 Durex Extra sensetive condoms that my mother bought me but we used them all and I am afraid to ask for more. 4 days ago, I went out and bought a box of Trojan her pleasure lubricated condoms. We were both extremely excited to finally get intimate again, but as soon as I put one on, my boner just drops. The next day, she came over and we had a "quicky" with no condom and i had no problems getting an erection or cumming. Now(today), even with no condom, I am having problems getting it up when she wants to have sex. I have NEVER had a problem getting it up before. whenever she told me she wanted to have sex, I could get it up in a matter of seconds. Now it doesnt do anything, just sits there. Im only 16 so I don't think its ED, altohught that runs in my family. Since friday, I have been snorting ritalin again and lots of it, could that have something to do with it? Before when I tooted a ritalin I got a big raging hardon that wouldnt go away so I don't see how it could be the ritalin. Could it be the lube in the trojan condoms causing this or is it the Ritalin?
the extra sensitive ones are made thinner than the her pleasure, from what ive read go buy some thinner condoms and see if it helps. ask her if shes thought about going on the pill as well, for safetys sake (if youre having unprotected quickies, she should be on the pill)
we have been talking about the pill since she was late last month, but she is afraid of the pap smear since some ass hole put it in her head that it hurts. Now that she started her period, she isnt afraid of getting pregnant from the precum and doesnt want the pill, but it worries me so much that I dont even want to fuck now. Her mom has told her she can get on the pill(she told her mom she wanted it to regulate her cycle, which is another legitimate reason she wants it) and that her mom would pay for everything. I dont understand it... parents give us condoms and birth control, but get pissed if we fuck? Today we did it real fast, no condom or drugs prior to the session, and i was able to get it up with no problem at all. I have a feeling its the ritalin or lube causing the impotence since as soon as we fucked I did a 90mg line of Ritalin and lubed up my wang but couldn't get it up for some anal. I am down to about 2 days of my ritalin binge, so im going to figure out if thats the issue soon.(fyi, im doing it as some experimenting of the effects of recreational ritalin) Months ago when I first started having sex, I talked to my doctor about not being able to cum during intercourse and he assured me it was my depression problems and prescribed me 5mg Diazepam 2 times a day. Thanks asshole, whats the point of cumming when you cant keep it up or stay focused enough to fuck? This problem is making my life even more depressing
I dunno about you man but when I did ritalin and lots of it, I couldn't get it up either. Didn't even think about sex. No hardon just the opposite, it just shriveled up like I just got out of the water from swimming. Might be the rid.
there are many drugs or medication that can cause erectile and ejaculatory problems in men. I'm sure the ritalin is not helping but I know for a fact that one of the side effects of most depression medications is loss of labido.
