I dont know what to do PLEASE READ

my mom and dad want to help me get into college. so that i can be something good in life and make enough money to support myself. They are always on my butt about studying and making good grades and i really try, but they put so much stress on me to do well that im going in the opposite direction. Now i can understand they want to help me and dont believe that i am capable of it because of my freshman year in highschool, i failed four classes. but i went to summerschool and made them up! They also dont allow me any space to breath, my dad keeps saying that no man is an island and that in our house it is no one for him/(her in my case) self. Ok thats interesting but I feel i dont belong anymore because i am so unforgettably different belief wise, moral wise and any other you cant think-of-wise than the rest of my family. I am starting to develope a depression from living here because it is so hard for me to relate anymore. My parents rarely ever let me out of the house unless they know who im with where i am that there are trustworthy adults around and they must speak to those adults, therefore my social situation is almost zero considering all my friends are hippies who like to party, i feel so distant from them. whenever i get invited to something i cannot go. even if there is nothing bad involved. The only thing that i have to do is homework and texting and i really am developing a depresion because of my freedom/ independence loving spririt and its state of oppression. Please take me seriously this is NOT ungratefullness. My parents are obbsessed, subcouncioiusley power hungery, i dont know what to do.

 

pleaaasssssssseeeee reply. i know your thinking something

 

College is hardly a necessity.
If you want it that bad, take a job and do night classes or online.

But don't do it just because everyone has told you it has to be done. They're lying.

 

dont worry its just all part of growing up.. my parents can be insane about where I go and who i am with sometimes as well. You have to really think about if college is what you want and if it is then just prove to your parents that you can work hard in school and still have a social life on the weekends and such

all parents and authorites suck anyway
its about doing what you want in life - most imporantly dont live for your parents

hope i could help
peace

 

omg parents actually parenting,,,,, what is wrong with them ,,,,how dare they ..... them evil sorry sons of bitches,, what makes them think i need to live by what they want , i am 15 and i know more than they do they just stupid old people what do they know ,,,, fukkin jerks...... wahhhhhhh wahh wahhhhhhhhhh

keep sittin n whining n crying bout it,,, so you can sit there in ten years when you are still living with them n still be bitching bout it here,,, dont by any means actually work toward a great escape, dont bother gettin atleast a high school diploma in the shortest easiest time possible, dont get off yer ass n go find some sorta kid job, dont learn about anything else that could help you survive when you do escape,,,,,, do not work toward anything that you think you want while you are sittin in yer cozy house , with real indoor plumbing n stuff n prolly a tv in every room,,,, dont be thankful for the food and love your parents are giving you..... just keep on keepin on the whine ass path ya seem to be following so we can watch ya fall on yer pretty lil protected face when ya do get away and have to come back pissin n moanin n beggin mommy ndaddy to let you back......

 

wantign to know that youre with safe people when youre out is COMPLETELY understandable. i had to let my parents know who i was with and their address and phone number whenever i was out with friends. its a reasonable request

i would advise sitting them down adn talking to them about the school thing. let them know that you do reallly want to do well, but that the pressure they are putting upon you with daily/regular pushing to do better is making it harder, not easier. that youre stressing yourself out to the point where you cant do your schoolwork effectively. that you love them and appreicate that they want you to do well, but the current path isnt helping with that

 

Damn parents....being parents and concerned with where their 15 y/o is and who they hang out with. Sheesh what morons. Lighten up you parents. We should not be concerned with what our teenagers are up to. Just let them what they want whenever they want and they will always make the right decisions.

Really, sarcasm aside, it sounds like you parents have your best interests at heart. Our biggest flaw as parents is careing too much. No, college isn't the only answer, but I admit to encouraging those kids of mine that have the scholastic aptitude to go. I am guilty of offering bribes and paying university tuition as we speak.

Yeah we parents all suck. Do I really, really suck since I have six kids? That would be suck X 6.

 

I would say you should to talk to them - i went through what you are going through right now and although it wasnt as bad and i still cant go out properly they have taken sooo much pressure off, all i did was write them a letter - every time we talked it ending in argument. If they see where you're coming from then maybe they'll stop doing what they are...

And hang in there cos at the end of the day they CANT control you and although it feels ages away soon enough you are gonna be away and living your own life...


Peace and love wished your way sis
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

Sounds like you need to grow up some, then maybe your parents will treat you like your more mature. Saying I can't hang out with my friends because they are too big of drugs addicts for my parents to approve of, just makes your argument sound stupid. Sorry. Yea--for parents who really parent!

 

i think you should simply sit down with them and tell them that you appreciate their help and push, but that they put a bit of too much unnecessary stress on you and that you're trying your best. i'm certainly no expert in this sort of thing, but it's what i would do if i were in your shoes. i'm not sure what to say about the second part because i've never experienced it. good luck with it, though. i hope for your emotional sake they ease up a bit.

 

Failing 4 classes in your freshman year would indicate to me that you need extra guidance. Prove to your parents that you are capable of making responsible decisions about what's best for you by doing well in school, helping around the house, and/or a part time job.
As a parent, a big red flag for me is, friends that won't come around the house and hang with me or my husband, it seems like they're trying to hide something about their character.
You can't blame your parents for loving you too much, they just want you to be safe and prepared to handle lifes twists and turns.

 

Point(s) taken friends. thank you! :] I was being quite selfish and ungreatfull of what i have, but life is learning and you dont know what you've got tell its gone.
Peace and Love to all