So this girl from greensingles.com messaged me over a month ago. After chatting on the phone, email, webcam (chat) I have been facing a side of me that I thought was lost or jaded after my first and only long term relationship with a girl I just wasnt well suited for. I am "falling" for her. I know the whole internet connection sounds cliche, but in todays world its really not that far out there to assume that a couple can meet digitally and find a real connection. The problem is that she lives 900 miles away. I am able to travel and meet her sometime soon, but I want to get some advice from some women on how to treat this situation and prevent things from backfiring. She is just out of a saddening relationship, and still sees the guy from time to time (platonically to my knowledge) and she says I have nothing to worry about, as she has other male friends. She is the outdoorsy type so that goes a ways in explaining her male friends. Many of the things she says go to suggest that she has some similar feelings about me that I have about her. Plus I am quite charming and attractive myself (IMHO) so its not a matter of one way attraction. Unfortunately, I am stuck in school for the remainder of this and next semester, and can't stand to live with the knowledge that she might get back with him or find someone else. Love is cruel :nopity: and makes me want to do some crazy things, (like move the hell out of this repressive rural Kansas college town and find my girl, even though Im almost done). I know Im just ranting and worrying about some things that are out of my control but I just want some assurances or advice on how to win her heart. She is ideal in all of the ways that I find a woman attractive, but I know the true test will be real life and not over the internet. Any thoughts?
In one of them myself. Been good, love the guy like hell. been other things too. But we have found out that we are probably "lifers dedicated" to one-another. Miss him when he`s not on internet, we both work some crazy hours. Were trying to get it together, to see each other face to face, i may get to him in kentucky before he gets up here. We will see. But love, "real love" is crazy too. You try not to hurt each other if you really care about one another. But there is one thing, especially when you are different from other people. More sensitive, more really caring than others. It amazes me when people are soooo dam dense, I am sure you know what I mean. And the internet is such a weird place at times, just when you think you you might actually have someone who cares, things sometimes--get f`d. Well, i guess the thing to do is stay in contact with her, if she really cares about you, she will stay in contact with you. I am 43 yrs old. so i have some years as an adult. Gone through soooo much crap. Hard when you have some real bad feelings for someone. and they don`t always return them. I would stay in college cause you are almost done. To get that far then blow it, especially when you don`t know how the two of you are gonna turn out. But you know I just might end up moving down to Kentucky. Say to hell with things and go. I work so I am not in school, but I have child support 800.oo a month, people that I have promised things to, you don`t go back on a promise if you can help it, kinda just not cool. But you have a promise to yourself, you need a career, school is what that is for and girls will fuck you over. I know you know that too. so I guess, sometimes you got to follow your heart, whatever the hell that is, sometimes. But school should come first, even if it is the hicks of a school, better than nothing. My guy and I are older probably than you guys. I know age means nothing. But how you go about it does. We try to say" good morning Babe" by e-mail, and a small note during the day, we check in around noon time sometimes just to say hi. we try to say hi before we go to bed. I love you kinda thing. That is a start for you. if you don`t do it already. If you can get school vactions to go see her, really good but I know money can be tight. Cards, girls like cards, e-mail or whatever. Even the real mail is a good thing. Know her address? just a small pkg every now and then. That would get me. It is not material things always but rememberence- special little things help a girl alot. Girls do like sensitive guys. But alot of us don`t want our guys to become stupid in the girl department. Especially if she is the outdoors type. That is what I am myself. Outdoors with your guy, is like heaven. Getting dirty and then cleaning up together. Oil, grease, dirt, cars, motorcyles, hiking, camping, sex in a tent well you know what I mean. So I have rambled on myself enough. But will check in to see how you all turned out, prayin` for you. Dreamn`
Forget about long distance relationships, I won't even date someone that lives on the opposite side of town for me. I had a girlfriend that moved to florida and we lasted for about one month after that. The problem is missing the physical part of the relationship, which is a very important ingredient. Best advice is, do whatever you want, but don't limit yourself over someone that is so far away.
theres absolutely nothin wrong with long distance relationships my only comment is on why she needsan excuse for male freinds? just little things made me think that your in a hurry to move due to trust issues?
yah ldr is under rated! My baby is coming in less than 24 hours! we spent our first 18 months in an LDR. The first month we were together, two weeks apart, a week together..than... she came to see me, I saw her, she came, I went to see her again, than she came. Each for 3-5 weeks, besides that, we spent our relationship away from each other. But now it is working, cause she will be with me for a year (or more). so LDR does work, JUST HAVE FAITH .
thanks for your kind words friends...I'm not one to make rash decisions and certainly not when it comes to life/career vs. a girl. As far as trust issues, its mutually known that I dont have any right to worry about who she sees or whatever since she can't see me personally. I accept that, and she does give me some good indications that I dont have much to worry about. But damn, its just hard because shes on the rebound and has been seriously moping about him and how she doesnt understand men. Anyways, things will work out for the best.......much love
so how are things going on this subject these days,,,thinking and wondering how both of you are doing.,,, well i pray.
