Stress Relief Help Thread

!!! make sure you read the posts i put on PAGE 2 for helpful information on stress!!


It seems like alot of us are very stressed out lately, money issues, job issues, etc. I thought that this would be a good thread for all of us to get together and help one another calm ourselves down and enjoy life as we should.



I'll start,

I just got suspended from work for 3 days because im not trying hard enough, because i hate my job, im not going to sell 80 year old people things they dont need that they cant afford. i hate telemarketing, it was the only job i could do at the time. they even asked me if im burnt out on it, since i worked for them for years at other call centers. so they sent me home today. and told me that i can come back on thursday if i REALLY want to turn it around. im at goal, theyre pissed cus i am not top seller. no matter what i do, they are on my ass. but not on the tweakers, who i call them that because they DO meth. the whole place is favoritism and dirty sales.

money, sheesh, i wont even go there, im not even working for 3 days by force.

career, i have an interview for a really great job on FRIDAY, and im hoping i get it.

the house is trashed, cus we have been so buisy being stressed out and busting our asses. and trying to figure out what were going to do.

 

Awww that sucks... I understand money issues.... blah.

Things that help... breathing, sex, brownies or fudges... haha Those are the things that have helped me the past couple days..... and just putting things in persceptive.

If there is something I can't change, I'm not gonna think about it.... I'm gonna take all the sets I need to when I CAN change things but after I've done what I can do, that's all the time in my thought whatever it is shall get.

 

haha The thing that motivates me most right now is working out. Im so glad I started this routine in my life. This lets me breathe deep, relax, zen out, pump the endorphins, listen to music, and be healthy and focus.

This thread is a *good* idea.

 

Working out DEFIANTLY helps me .... but right now I literally CAN'T work out. Blah.

 

I think Im going to be thrown into a situation at work which I dont want to really do.....

and thats in a KM spot....

 

to relax i play guitar and skateboard im not to good but just rideing around helps me relax from school and all of the peoples bitching just beining out there you and your board makes me all warm and fuzzy lol yea thats what i do thats my excersize

 

the things that help me out the most are walking, taking a hot bath, getting excited about something else. i do need to excersise more. i would even think about money if i lost a few pounds!

 

I've just been so tired. Kevin hates me because I've been so stressed out and haven't spent every waking second paying attention to him. My mother is nuts and keeps postponing her move out date. (she flipped out over the air conditioners still being in last night, so I had to take them out at 11pm!) I'm also tired of guys at school-no respect for others. They think it's ok to just scream at women "nice ass" or even better-grab their ass.

My life is great and I love my life. I know it's going to be rough while I'm in college...but I wish I had a little more support dammit!

 

it's the stress of hanging out in the graveyards all the time getting spooked...

 

Remembering that everything happens for a reason. Perhaps you go these three days off so you can get the house in order and be mentally clear for your interview on Friday. Or maybe your son needs these three days with you at home.
I bet you will get that job on Friday and these three days off will become a blessing.
In the meantime; Can your hubby get a second job?

 

i have to drive to SoCal for my dad's birthday. i have to drive alone, with my daughters in the car. i've never driven so far before, i'm terrified of going alone and i've been having nightmares for a week now. but i have to go. i don't know how the hell i'm going to do it.

i never used to be afraid of going places, but when i was 10 i had a very bad experience getting lost. i used to be the intrepid explorer.

 

actually, that is where i find it very peaceful

 

make sure you got a map, a phone, extra tire, and blankets with an emergency car kit, plenty of drinks and snacks, your favorite cds. it wont be so bad. heck, bring a thing of mase if you want, i would just to make myself feel safe.

 

I really don't get stressed out much, but if I ever feel myself getting there I find sex a really good stress reliever. Even just masturbation. Next to that, exercise, playing my guitar, listening to music, kicking back and reading a book outside, sitting in the sun and drinking a beer, gardening, or a nice hot shower.


Peace

 

im enjoying not having to go there today, and this morning when my son woke up, he crawled into bed with me and cuddled with me while we slept till 11. that was nice, since ive been getting up at 5-6 am. and im getting to spend time with him.

 

i found this pretty interesting about stress and how women and men deal with it and why,


During stress, women tend to care for their children and find support from their female friends. Women’s bodies make chemicals that are believed to promote these responses. One of these chemicals is oxytocin (ahk-see-toe-sin), which has a calming effect during stress. This is the same chemical released during childbirth and found at higher levels in breastfeeding mothers, who are believed to be calmer and more social than women who don’t breastfeed. Women also have the hormone estrogen, which boosts the effects of oxytocin. Men, however, have high levels of testosterone during stress, which blocks the calming effects of oxytocin and causes hostility, withdrawal, and anger.

 

this is what stress can bring as symptoms

trouble sleeping
headaches
constipation
diarrhea
irritability
lack of energy
lack of concentration
eating too much or not at all
anger
sadness
higher risk of asthma and arthritis flare-ups
tension
stomach cramping
stomach bloating
skin problems, like hives
depression
anxiety
weight gain or loss
heart problems
high blood pressure
irritable bowel syndrome
diabetes
neck and/or back pain
less sexual desire
harder to get pregnant

 

How can I help handle my stress?
Don’t let stress make you sick. As women, we tend to carry a higher burden of stress than we should. Often we aren’t even aware of our stress levels. Listen to your body, so that you know when stress is affecting your health. Here are ways to help you handle your stress.

How can I help handle my stress?

Don’t let stress make you sick. As women, we tend to carry a higher burden of stress than we should. Often we aren’t even aware of our stress levels. Listen to your body, so that you know when stress is affecting your health. Here are ways to help you handle your stress.

• Relax. It’s important to unwind. Each person has her own way to relax. Some ways include deep breathing, yoga, meditation, and massage therapy. If you can’t do these things, take a few minutes to sit, listen to soothing music, or read a book.
• Make time for yourself. It’s important to care for yourself. Think of this as an order from your doctor, so you don’t feel guilty! No matter how busy you are, you can try to set aside at least 15 minutes each day in your schedule to do something for yourself, like taking a bubble bath, going for a walk, or calling a friend.
• Sleep. Sleeping is a great way to help both your body and mind. Your stress could get worse if you don’t get enough sleep. You also can’t fight off sickness as well when you sleep poorly. With enough sleep, you can tackle your problems better and lower your risk for illness. Try to get seven to nine hours of sleep every night.
• Eat right. Try to fuel up with fruits, vegetables, and proteins. Good sources of protein can be peanut butter, chicken, or tuna salad. Eat whole-grains, such as wheat breads and wheat crackers. Don’t be fooled by the jolt you get from caffeine or sugar. Your energy will wear off.
• Get moving. Believe it or not, getting physical activity not only helps relieve your tense muscles, but helps your mood too! Your body makes certain chemicals, called endorphins, before and after you work out. They relieve stress and improve your mood.
• Talk to friends. Talk to your friends to help you work through your stress. Friends are good listeners. Finding someone who will let you talk freely about your problems and feelings without judging you does a world of good. It also helps to hear a different point of view. Friends will remind you that you’re not alone.
• Get help from a professional if you need it. Talk to a therapist.A therapist can help you work through stress and find better ways to deal with problems. For more serious stress related disorders, like PTSD, therapy can be helpful. There also are medications that can help ease symptoms of depression and anxiety and help promote sleep.
• Compromise. Sometimes, it’s not always worth the stress to argue. Give in once in awhile.
• Write down your thoughts. Have you ever typed an email to a friend about your lousy day and felt better afterward? Why not grab a pen and paper and write down what’s going on in your life! Keeping a journal can be a great way to get things off your chest and work through issues. Later, you can go back and read through your journal and see how you’ve made progress!
• Help others. Helping someone else can help you. Help your neighbor, or volunteer in your community.
• Get a hobby. Find something you enjoy. Make sure to give yourself time to explore your interests.
• Set limits. When it comes to things like work and family, figure out what you can really do. There are only so many hours in the day. Set limits with yourself and others. Don’t be afraid to say NO to requests for your time and energy.
• Plan your time. Think ahead about how you’re going to spend your time. Write a to-do list. Figure out what’s most important to do.
• Don’t deal with stress in unhealthy ways. This includes drinking too much alcohol, using drugs, smoking, or overeating.

 

trouble sleeping CHECK
headaches CHECK
constipation
diarrhea
irritability CHECK
lack of energy CHECK
lack of concentration CHECK
eating too much or not at all CHECK (NOT AT ALL WHEN IM STRESSED)
anger CHECK
sadness CHECK
higher risk of asthma and arthritis flare-ups
tension CHECK
stomach cramping
stomach bloating
skin problems, like hives
depression
anxiety CHECK
weight gain or loss CHECK (LOSS NO MATTER WHAT)
heart problems
high blood pressure
irritable bowel syndrome
diabetes
neck and/or back pain CHECK
less sexual desire CHECK
harder to get pregnant CHECK (MAD)



Although all those I just checked hopefully aren't happening anymore as I've pretty much told myself I'm not GOING to stress....

 

trouble sleeping - fuck yes
headaches - fuck yes
constipation - not so much
diarrhea - fuck yes
irritability - is that what it is?
lack of energy - from the lack of sleep? fuck yes.
lack of concentration - i thought i was just stupid
eating too much or not at all - both, depending
anger - has anyone noticed? i hadn't noticed
sadness - not so much
higher risk of asthma and arthritis flare-ups - not yet
tension - pfft. duh!
stomach cramping - yes, put that with diarrhea
stomach bloating - yes, due to eating the wrong thing
skin problems, like hives - nope, still prett
depression - duh
anxiety - ahahahahaha!
weight gain or loss - actually, i'm stuck at my current weight for now.
heart problems - nope, running smoothly
high blood pressure - yeah, but that's unrelated, really.
irritable bowel syndrome - isn't that diarrhea/constipation
diabetes - nope
neck and/or back pain - um, isn't that tension? got it.
less sexual desire - yes
harder to get pregnant - dear GOD i hope so.