Negative people

Oh, I'm sorry... I thought hippies were perfectly allowed to talk about what bothers them... but I see we're only to talk about world peace, drugs and the Grateful Dead... my bad.

 

Bart, you're allowed to talk about revolution as well hehe.

 

A girl at the college I go to is always so negative. She's always talking about how drunk she gets to cease the pain she feels inside.

I can't stand negative vibes. I try very hard to be positive and to see the light in every person, but with some people, it is so tough!

 

That's so sad... Maybe you could suggest that she go to the Counseling/Health Centre, if your school has one... :/

 

We're doing depression screenings this week and she already told me she was going to one...I told her she needed to and to start loving her life and realizing why it's worth living

 

Yay! It's great that you're trying to help her, and that your school is doing depression screenings. Life is too awesome to go through depressed...

 

Finally! Someone who thinks the same as me! haha

 

I think the difference between dealing with any negativity in yourself and bottling it up is really matter of mind over matter. Bottling it up means you ignore it and try to distract yourself with television or work. To deal with it forever, you make the conscious effort to release it. You've confronted it, you understand why you feel this way (or if you don't you at least understand it is only in your mind and does not HAVE to be) and then you willingly release it, purge your soul of it. This is an intentional act, and requires some faith in your universe, that you will be able to release it and then that's it, and it won't weigh you down any more. I think it's something you get better at with time. I also recommend deep breathing through the nostrils while doing this, which will calm and relax you so you can better accomplish this.

As for books, there's just one I'd recommend to everyone.

The Lazy Man's Guide To Enlightenment by Thaddeus Golas.

http://www.amazon.com/Lazy-Guide-Enlightenment-Thaddeus-Golas/dp/0553263587

Short read, but something you're gonna want to go through several times and always have on hand as a reminder. This book seriously changed my life. My advice to anyone on this thread is to give it a try. It's short and very economical at something like five bucks.

PS Dance or music is never a bad thing! It's possible to just dance your troubles away too, but it'd be wise to meditate on them and release them in a similar manner to what I mentioned before.

 

i used to be a negative person always being negative but then i had an epiphiny or how ever you spell it and just changed my ways and now i try to put a positive spin on everything

 

Thanks man. That makes a lot of sense; I'll have to try that from now on... maybe the reason why the same problems keep coming back is that I keep ignoring them and hoping they'll just go away... This is the kind of stuff that no one ever teaches you, but it's so important to know... And that book looks great. I'm going to order it... Too bad there isn't an Enlightenment 101 class that people can take at university, lol.

 

When I was a student there was a young teacher we had who had such a strong charisma and she was so pretty.. i really liked her...she was the one who inspired me to become a teacher too.
There was one day when something bad happened..the whole class din't like her..I dind't care until then.
My teacher made a fault.. a very bad mistake and all of my classmates where pointing at her... she was standing there, the principal next to her.. and she was so strong....and I began to cry because my stomach turned....she smiled at me after the thing was done.
Since that day I always ask myself why do I care about other persons problems more than they acutally do...this fact makes my character weak....including my body...
Folks who are my friends like that about me....they say that makes me undescribably nice....but it doesn't get me any further..

What do you folks think?

Good or bad thing about me?

 

I don't think you're weak. You just take the problems of your friends to heart. That's a sign that you really care about other people, and that's beautiful!

 

That's called whining, son. When you grow up, you'll understand most of your "problems" were merely inconveniences...

 

So, does that change anything if you wanna talk about what bothers you?

whineplay_w("W0119700") (hwn, wn)
v. whined, whin·ing, whines
v.intr. 1. To utter a plaintive, high-pitched, protracted sound, as in pain, fear, supplication, or complaint.
2. To complain or protest in a childish fashion.
3. To produce a sustained noise of relatively high pitch: jet engines whining.

Noun1.whine - a complaint uttered in a plaintive whining way whimper
complaint - an expression of grievance or resentment


2. whine - talk in a tearful manner

Not really, looks like you're mixed whining up with complaining. :tongue:

 

People that talk about you behind your back is for them just a pathetic way to feel better about themselfes. It's ironic because they talk like they don't wan't you around and at the same time they need you to feel better about themselfes.
I feel sorry for them.

 

i think all negative people should be killed in a manor befitting their negativity
such as crucifixion, burned at the stake, buried alive, or firing squad

 

I hope you're not serious... No one deserves to be murdered.

"Hate begets hate; violence begets violence; toughness begets a greater toughness. We must meet the forces of hate with the power of love."
-Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

:agree:

 

What if you were one of the negative people?

 

I bet she gets positive real fast. Isn't that great