My GF just had a our daughter about 3 months ago and through that time we went through stuff most couples go through with a new born. And through that time I have always showed that I still love her and still think of her as beautiful as the day that I 1st saw her. It seem like she is just goin through the motions at times, its like she doesn't see or hear anything I do. I know that women go through alot before, during and after a child and I try to be do everything in my power to support her. I'm right in front of here trying to help and I no reaction, I give her space I try everything a nothing. We had a talk a few days ago so I asked what was up if anything was wrong, she said that she just doesn't want sex. I can understand that that was on the top on my list but I can't even get a 30sec kiss just daps. It seems like we're not even a couple half the time. Is there anything/anyone that can help me I just what her to know that I here for her and that we have to show some type of affection towards each other. UPDATE 10/05/07 My GF and I just had a talk last nite and she said that she would like to move back home with her mother with the baby because she misses home, and her grandfather passed away about a month ago. I have no problem with her spending time with her family but to move with the baby is something that I don't support. I support her and everything but not this move, this feels like its going to tear me and this relationship apart. Not to mention that I'm not going to be with me daughter until I go and see her or when they come down. And that just makes me feel like I'm turning into a child support case or something, and I still have to support them with money.(I have do problem doing but I don't like it.) I would rather do everything for her and the baby myself. I don't know but I just don't like this, I just have a bad feeling about all of this.
I felt fat and ugly after having my son for awhile.. but my ex never gave up and eventually I realized I was beautiful again.. it's just spit up and poopy diapers don't make a mom feel too sexy.. just keep up what you are doing it sounds like you are doing everything you can.. maybe have someone watch the baby and go out for a romantic dinner and tell her how you feel..
Maybe she can talk to her doctor. A lot of women suffer post partum depression and don't even realize it. Having a newborn is really hard on both mom and dad, and it's great that you are trying to help her out whenever you can. As a mom I can tell you that it took me a good 6 months before I started feeling "normal" again. That was about the time the kids slept all night, and I could have some time to myself. So, as frustrating as it can be just keep trying. I wish there was a better answer to give you. I can tell you that a lot of times men get overlooked when there is a new baby involved. It's unfair, but true. So, while you are helping her through this rough patch, don't forget to take the time for yourself. If she can't tell you how wonderful you are hang out with some friends and do something you enjoy and makes you feel good about yourself. Not saying an affair, but maybe sports, fishing, whatever you enjoy and makes you feel good. Offer to take the baby off her hands a few hours and go shopping or to a friends house. Let her have 2-3 hours to unwind and not be a "mom." It's hard to explain...but I know some days I got tired of being "mom" and "wife" and just wanted a little time to be myself. I'm sure you have days that you just want time too, and you should be able to have it. There is no "quick fix" for your situation. You and your wife need to be loving and patient with each other, and hopefully life will get better soon. Best of luck to you.....
^^ agreed on the getting checked for post partum thing but being a new parent is really demanding, especially if shes the primary caregiver in your household. get some counselling perhaps, but generally, be patient
