Do any of you cosleep with your babies? If so, what form do you use (are they in your bed [with or without your partner] or just in the same room or what)? Please tell me your experiences with cosleeping. I'm not a mother yet, but I hope to be one next year and I have a lot of things on my mind and this subject is one of them. No one in my family coslept and they all think its bad because you could suffocate the baby. But one of my close friends had a baby and she coslept out of necessity. I babysat that baby for a few weeks and had to cosleep because he had no bed. The first night I was very nervous, but discovered that I slept differently when he was in the bed and I felt comfortable with it from then on. And then I heard about cosleeping. And I'm not really sure what I'd want to do. I like the idea of cosleeping, but I think it would be difficult with my fiance in the bed. I think that would make me kind of paranoid. (Plus our bed isn't huge. lol!) My stepmother said she had her babies sleep in a basinet (sp?) right by her bed. That sounds good to me, but they wouldn't get the benefit of having your touch through the night. I certainly don't like the idea of having a baby sleep in another room! That would make me really paranoid! So, I'm just wondering what you all have done. Any advice, opinions, or experinces appreciated!
right now we have a sidecarred crib, but in the past i've just had nimhling right in the bed with me. it's so cuddly and cosy, and i love that he's right there to check on him. i'd be ultra-paranoid if he was somewhere else in the house while i'm sleeping.
We cosleep and have since the first day she was home. My mother in law bought us a beautiful moses basket that I had set up next to our bed. The first night we were home, I had her in it and when she woke up to nurse, I brought her in bed with us and there she has stayed. We have a king sized bed. I don't think we'd be able to do it with anything smaller. Now, being 7 months pregnant, I am considering getting her a little futon or toddler bed or something to put right next to our bed so it isn't too crowded. She is almost 2. If you plan to nurse, cosleeping is the way to go.
Well I don't have children (not humans anyway) but my parents would let me, and later my brother, sleep in their bed. Just when we wanted a hug or had a bad dream (always had our own beds) that went on till we reached about ten. Had a surreal conversation with my mother a while ago, about how I plan to parent, and she said 'oh well you wait till you have children, then you will go back on things. I said I'd never let children in our bed but did.' Gee thanks Mum. Nice to know you were so delighted with our nigh time company. How could she have not wanted us there. It's not like we stopped needing love just because it's night. So yes I plan to co sleep. The Natural child project (naturalchild.org/home) has some great articles on the subject.
Dakota has a bed in our room. Some nights he sleeps in it all night. Other nights he comes into our bed. Sometimes I wake up and he's there without me even knowing it. Usually now he comes and cuddles for a few minutes. Then I say "It's time to go back to your bed." If he has had enough cuddles he will go back. If not he'll just tell me no and snuggle in more. Some nights he spends the whole night with us. We have a queen size waterbed. I'm a very very large woman and my husband is not exactly small, but we all fit. Sometimes I move down toward the foot of the bed and Dakota sleeps above my head near the headboard. Kathi
My youngest (19 months) slept with us when she was a younger baby. I had to have a c-section, so getting up every few hours to get her and feed her wasn't an option. She would sleep on my chest until she got big enough to sleep beside me. Now, she has her own room, and sleeps fine in her room by herself, but if she is sick, or simply having trouble sleeping, she will sleep with us. Although, she is a bed hog! She will have the whole bed while Tim and I are clinging for life at the ends!
I co-sleep. Croix sleeps in my bed though and Noah actully prefers his own bed...funny huh. It kind of stinks though because I share a twin bed with a toddler who loves to kick me but oh well, it makes him happy. To tell you the truth I'll probably miss him when he wants his own bed!
lol same here. that's why nimhling is in the sidecar now. he cuddles up with his lamby in his little nest. it's so sweet.
LOL friends of ours do that with their dog, every night, and he snores. Never tried co sleeping with the rabbits, as their hutches are outdoors. I'm going talk my parents into letting them live in my room though (when they're bonding and the weather gets cold) so they might end up in my bed. Not sure it would work though, we all move around a lot in the night (rabbits are sort of nocturnal) and I've only got a single bed.
I co-slept with all of mine, in my bed, with my partner. I pushed the bed against the wall, with baby next to me, me in the middle, and Dad on the edge. I got more sleep (and so did baby) that way. I could not sleep with my baby or young child in another room! Not even in a crib next to me, they had to be right up next to me, then I felt they were safe.
I cosleep and love it. There are other benefits early on to both babe and mom other than the sheer convenience of not having to drag yourself out of bed. Your little one is learning to control his bodies functions and forming brain connections and your closeness helps his body stay in sync. But, it is a choice you should make for both of you. I have a new bf and there is considerable intimacy lost because my beds already been taken. I can understand the argument that you and your hubby don't want to lose the bond between the two of you. However, while my son's father was still with us he got used to the idea and grew to love cuddling with his son.
Yup we have been co-sleeping with our babies and young 'uns since the first one was born back in '79. We called it a family bed back then....I guess that's kind of old fashioned now. Man if you live without central heat you would sleep with your kids.....for sheer warmth and survival. Just makes sense to keep the little 'un close.
I personally dont have time to read over everything but! Me and my husband both sleep in bed with our daughter, from day one. She was first just beside me and then between us and then she is agaisnt the wal b/c I want cuddles! lol Anyways Our oldest was the technical definitin, he fell aleep in bed with me (via nursng* and then went into his own bed beside us. he couldnt sleep with us thanks to Bryans anxiety) ANYWHO, we so far have had the best of luck she sleeps through the nght and stuff where Alex never did... Good luck to you
We share a bed with Gaea. It is very wonderful, and I couldnt imagine anything else. She is such a blessing, and we both sleep better together. I love my kooka baby!
