Am I Being Used?

My whole life, biyatch.

 

hey, watch the language brat.

 

How come a chick with no job can easily get a date but not a dude?

FIGHT GENDER INEQUALITY.

 

cuz women are smarter?

 

It sounds like you were being used; but from the way you describe it it seems like it was obvious why did you have doubts? also how did she react when you left?

 

Because income isn't really a quality most guys consider with women. Women look for men who will be good protectors and providers and men look for women who are attractive and will make good mothers.

It's not really unfair if you look at the income difference between men and women. I make a nice amount for my age and only having a BA, but my male counterpart in the outhern region of our state makes a great deal more than me. I have never bitched about it though because I get a lot of privleges being a women.
I also have to carry our babies for nine months and take time off of work indefinitley...so women sacrifice a lot...but you have to be a good man to reap the benefits of that sacrifice.
I really don't wanna hop off my pedestal to accept equality. It's a big jump down

 

No idea. I waited till she wasn't present, packed up my shit, and got out of there. Haven't spoken to her since. I'm wondering if it'll all sink into her head.

 

Real nice... you tanked while she was gone? You're a special one, Sweetie. :leaving:

 

Oh I'm sorry dear. Are you upset because one of your ilk couldn't bend me to their will? And that her plans of manipulation backfired? Oh boohoo poor her.

 

you're such a coward. If she hasn't called you it seems like she doesn't care much. Have you ever thought that maybe she wanted you to leave her, but didn't want to hurt your feelings?

 

I'm a coward because I refused to be used? Alright. Sure thing.

I'm sure she wanted me to leave, which is why, when I slept on the couch two nights prior to leaving, she asked me "What are you doing out there?" I'm sleeping. "Come and sleep next to me."

Right-o. Before you go making assumptions know the situation.

And by the way, I don't have a phone.

 

Don't put all women in the same grouping. That only makes you look ignorant. Actually, hooray for her. She's probably better off without you. And yes, you're a coward because you didn't have the balls to stick around long enough to tell her to her face that it's not working and you need to leave. That's a coward.

 

Bla bla bla. I have no balls. I'm a terrible lover. I can't get a date. I'm not man enough. Yes yes yes.

Go banter to someone other guy who might play into the Shaming Tactics.

 

actually, youre a coward because you ran out and didnt even tell her that you were leaving or why. and yes i would call a member of either gender a coward for such behaviour. but hey, your life, not mine

 

Sure thing.

 

ConfuzzeldOne, I have to agree that you may be approaching things from the wrong angle. I know this situation is overwith and all, but you could have handled it better by not getting involved with her in the first place. Maybe she did use you for a time, but you're the one who chose to stay with her, so you really can't put all the blame on her. There were obviously red flags from the get-go, a situation that wouldn't have a desirable outcome, but you stuck around for the possibility of sexual gratification? That's kind of lame. Just sayin'....

I think it's really crass and unclassy that a guy who takes a girl out is really expecting to be rewarded with sex. Personally I think it's stupid to expect the guy to pay for everything on a date, so I always offer to split the check. Some guys appreciate it, others feel imasculated. I can tell right away if a dude is super insistent on it and gets irritated with me for wanting to split the check, he wanted to buy me off for sex. That's supremely annoying to me. The way to get me to sleep with you is to want to get to know me as a person, not buying me off with shit. I'm an extremely frugal/simple-living chick and I almost find it a turn-off when a guy wants to buy me lots of shit. Gifts can be nice here and there, if they're given because a person genuinely wants to give me something and it's not used as a way to get me to sleep with them. I understand that an important part of a relationship is sex, but I think you may have been going about it the wrong way all along. Also I see a pattern of you saying you've played different angles at different times and that you get laid more when you're being an asshole. I think a lot of women confuse being an asshole with confidence, and confidence is sexy, but you can be a kind and confident person too, without being an asshole. I think your problem is that you can't let go of categorizing people into sweeping generalizations. I think most people male and female grapple with these attitudes at some point. You think that women are turned on by assholes. Women are brainwashed from childhood (mostly by crappy Disney movies and shit like that) that "bad boys" deep down inside have a wounded inner child that needs nurturing and that they can "change" them for the better, save them if you will. That's retarded, but I've seen countless women try to repeat the plot of Disney movie after Disney movie, always chasing after the unacheivable instead of just going for someone who's stable and kind from the get-go. Women are task-oriented and like projects, but most of us go for the unhealthy and wrong project of changing a man for the better. Also, have you considered the possibility that we all have a little asshole inside of us and some of us are just better at hiding it than others? I know I can be an asshole and pretty damn blunt about things to people. It's gotten me in trouble at some times and saved me at others. However, every man I've been with knew both sides - I didn't mask the undesirable parts of my personality to highlight the nice parts, I have never had a problem just being myself. You should just be yourself too. Just remember that most women don't think of a romance as you trying to get into their pants - we want to connect on a higher level first and foremost, and connecting on that higher level will usually translate to a healthy sex life together...I just kind of rambled a lot, so sorry if that didn't really make sense. Wake and bake is not my friend today

 

That's life.

I give you respect for that.

Or maybe he refuses to feel emasculated? Or maybe he feels like he's being tested. You know, most guys feel that when a woman offers to pay any part of the check, it's a test to see something about him; and most times if the man let's her pay... adios to any sexual prospects with her. Sorry that's life, too.

I would be thrilled if a woman offered to treat me to the date, or to pick up her half of the date. I mean, after all, aren't we BOTH interested in each other? Why should a man have to pay the woman to pursue him, while having to pick up his own half to pursue her? I would let her pay what she wanted, and if I failed her test doing so, she's not worth MY time.

 

I don't do it as a test, though. I just think if I want true equality between genders, which I do, I should practice what I preach. I don't need to be "saved" or "taken care of" so I want to pay for my own shit.

 

That's really attractive.

 

If you continually look at women as if they're all going to try to fuck you over in the end, then that's all you're going to get. I just speak my mind. I don't know you, but I do know from your posts on here that you already have a preconceived idea as to how every single woman in this whole entire world is. And since you beleive that way, all you're going to get is the screwy end of every deal because you're setting yourself up for it.

If you go into a relationship thinking, "She's probably too good to be true" or "She's probably just like the others I've fallen for." then you're going to be looking for a reason to sabotage it before you can get anywhere with anyone out of fear of getting hurt. So it turns into "I'm gonna fuck her over before she has a chance to get to me."

Everybody has thier baggage and their past, but if you drag it into every single realtionship following it, you don't have anyone to blame but yourself. You have to change the way you look at things.

Is there any woman in this world that you respect or care about? Mother? Aunt? Sister? Female friends?