yesterday was the worst day of my life(hope you dont mind this posted in this forum)

I heard about this condition on discovery health. I'm so glad that you found the cause! I bet that's a relief for the both of you. You're a step closer to having that baby. Good luck with the procedure!

 

That's great that they found the cause. That's one step closer to a healthy baby. Now build that body up again and when you're ready, happy baby making.

Kathi

 

im just really sad that this means i cnnot have a homebirth like i originally wanted

 

Look on the bright side! At least you can now HAVE a birth, regardless of where it takes place the end result is usually the same. You went from not being able to have kids to being able to... this is something good. So what if you have to give birth in a hospital for pete's sake, at least you are GIVING BIRTH!!!

 

i dont know that the vitamins and thinners will work....i might not have a birth at all
i have never wanted to have my children in a hospital
its bad enough i had to have surgery done there etc. hospitals suck the life from you...oh well too bad i guess..

 

look around for a supportive place when that time comes. I'm still having my baby in a hospital with a midwife, but it's a very warm and loving enviornment. It really depens on the hospital...

 

the hospitals we have here both suck anyways.
i dont know what im going to do
the fact that im high rislk to even get thruogh the first trimester makes me sad

 

look... you've gone from having almost no hope to having a real chance! So why are you still focusing on the negative? Yes, yes.. hospitals suck. Now quit moping around about the fact that you have to go the hospital and start being happy about the fact that you have to go to the hospital to DELIVER THE BABY YOU HAVE BEEN DREAMING ABOUT FOREVER!

 

Please try to focus on the positive of this. I have seen and learned that negativity brings on bad things and I feel that words have power. Your mind and body is amazing and if you truly believe things (my body can't carry a baby, etc), your body will listen.

As for hospital birth, I learned 4-1/2 years ago that how babies come into the world is not nearly as important is that they make it here. I wanted to perfect natural birth. I had never even considered that I would have drugs or surgery, not once. I ended up with an emergency c-section. Do I blame the hospital, my doctor, or those god awful nurses? NOPE, I had the choice to hire a doula that would have given me the support I needed for the birth. I chose not to, and ended up in a c-section. I do believe in my heart that a doula would have made the difference, but I will not waste the rest of my life because my children didn't come into the world like I imagined.

I had a repeat c-section with my daughter, it was so healing emotionally. I held my baby from a few minutes after surgery, nursed her, she never left my arms (only once for a bath right in front of me), and it was perfect (for me). My friend's homebirth actually resulted in an emergency c-section at a hospital (the midwife needed to call 911) and then she got a bill for $30,000, but she has a healthy baby. Anything can happen to anyone, bad things don't just happen to you!

Believe it or not, not everyone gets the perfect birth they imagined. But after trying unsuccesfully to have a baby for 4 years, even going thru heartbreaking fertility treatments, I got to hold my baby in my arms...my baby that needed to be cut out of me in a hospital. Perfect birth...absolutely not, perfect baby, YES!!!

Please if you really want a baby, focus on the positives, you have a diagnosis and it is a start, now they know what to do. Or focus on the negative, and let it eat your body and soul up.

 

who ever said it was going to help me have a baby????

 

i think losing my children ate up my body and soul already

 

I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you find something to bring you happiness. good luck.

 

There is a book you should read, called The Secret. You're focusing so much on the negativity that has HAPPENED to you that you are just attracting MORE negativity to yourself. Please, my heart goes out to you and I truly believe you need to mourn, but you also need to focus on life and positivity.

 

this year hasnt brought me a shred of anything good
i have dealt with 4 family deaths and the starr and rose dying, surgeries etc.
it has not been a good year
you can only handle so much and i think im at my breaking point

 

i am really sorry for your losses and all that you are going through. but there has to be something good in your life. something you are thankful for that you can focus on. my mother lost my brother when he was only hours old. this was thirty years ago and now she says losing a child is something you never truly get over but that you have to find a way to live your life. as you have witnessed first hand, life is fragile and fleeting and there are no guarantees. i truly think that you can find peace through all of this and experience joy again. but you have to be proactive in your healing. just take it one day at a time and try to do something good for yourself everyday. even if it's something small.

and i know you have said things about how bad the dr's are in your area, but i really really think you need to talk to someone. i saw a therapist for a while when i was going through some really harsh times and it helped so much.

namaste.

 

no, actually, i havent found one good thing going on at all right now. my job isnt going very well, i have co workers who daily rub in my face that i klost my children and try to find what way its my fault. my husband nd i do nothing but bicker, my family is each having their own issues and never tell me anything good happening, my husbands family is a huge mess, my husbands grandmother just dies, his father and sister are homeless and keep trying to rely on us for support and i cannot do it. ive lost my child just a month ago, it seems like none of this shit will ever end and it feels like its getting deeper and deeper

 

get some help... gets some meds... get something. You are depressed, and you need to take care of YOURSELF before you start thinking about bringing another life into the world.

 

eet - if you don't take care of yourself theres no way you can take care of a child. emo physically or mentally - try to get referred to see a doc - they help a ton when your going thru trials and tribulations. Hope everything turns out for the best. Focuson the positive and not the negative

 

i was fine b4 i miscarried,
its not fair to tell someone they couldnt take care of a child if their depressed...its the loss of a loved one, of course im depressed!
i am a part of alot of different support groups who help, and no i refuse to put chemicals in my body to fix it, its not meant to be that way

 

yes, i agree chemicals could make things worse. Just remember, happiness is a choice. yes, it's a process, but you are in power of how you feel. Do you get enough omega-3s in your diet? if you have a higher omega3 intake, then you may start to balance the chemicals in your brain naturally. again, good luck with the healing process.