this kid in my school

ok now i know i sound like im bitching but oh well, i need to get this out.

ok so im sittin in health class and this kid next to me is having a paper ball fight with the kid behind me. well i get up to pick up my books and he throws one at me just to play around. so playing around he wanted. then playing around he's gonna get. i didn't have a paper ball so i pushed his books off his desk. i was playing around but he took it all seriously and stuff. so i sit down and he says

"what the fuck man you think you can push my books off and think its ok?"
me: " dude i was playing around, now shut up and listen."
him:why dont you do something about it.?
me:no man i dont fight people, now if you really want to hit something then hit me, if it makes you feel manly.
him:no i wanna fight you
ok now this dude is like two times taller than me with arms the size of my head
to continue
me:no im not gonna fight, not if you wanna be manly and look "coool" then hit me.
so he says ok and hits me twice in the face.
man did he feel biiiig. he thinks he is the maaaan
he just kept instigating it

is this me being stupid or did i have self-control in this situation?

thanks for listening guys

 

btw i told him to hit me to see if he would actually do it

 

too bad.

 

well, joey, i think that was very mature of you. i'm proud of you, dear.

look at it this way: if this guy was stupid enough to start throwing paper balls around, he is stupid enough to hit you, NOT once, but TWICE; in the face, just because you pushed his books off his desks.

thank the powers that be that you are smarter than that and didn't resort to violence. I am very proud of you, dear.
:hug:

 

thanks lizzie

 

I'm glad you didn't fight him. And what you said to him was awesome... "if you want to be manly and look cool..." haha. I think you handled the situation well, especially compared to that guy. He apprears to be the one with issues, for wanting to fight over nothing and for just being a jerk in general. And I'm sorry he hit you.

Anyhow, try not to let jerks like that get you down, and keep staying stronger than those kinds of people who would like you to think that strength is proved through physical violence. And don't worry about venting here, because everyone here is way awesome and loves to help out whenever they can...

 

thats totally awesome dude, violence never solves anything. Never stoop down to their level or youll be just as bad as them

 

Dude, I'm a fan of you

Society really makes us feel like being manly is interlinked with violence and guns but I would say what you did is about 1000x as manly

 

If I was there I would been like "I will write you a angry letter and petition you!"

 

I'm also very proud joey
you handled that really well!
seriously! im glad you didn't fight him, that wouldn't have solved anything, and just made bigger problems...that guy was an idiot, it sounds like he was desperate for a fight :S

peace and love
Jane
*hugs*

 

Listen man. Not fighting is honorable and all but not antagonizing people is important too and getting yourself hit in the face is no victory. You made several mistakes. One you should not have pushed his books off because that was a major escalation of the situation. Two instead of telling him he should shut up and listen you should have apologized. Three you should not have suggested he hit you and then challenged his manliness. Four you challenged his manliness again. At that point being the person he is he had to hit you. Violence often starts with some kind of minor misjudgement that escalates because no one is willing to back down. You need to learn to nip it in the bud at the beginning with consideration and respect for the other guy, no matter how much of an a-hole you think he is. We all make mistakes. That's part of life. Now that it's all done, try to let it go and be civil to the dude.

 

^ i agree with you brother. You were brave to question he's manlines but you just should be kind to him. Some kids in my school always picekd a fight whit me but i'm not in to that stuff so i started treating them like my friends. So now were all buddies. It's really better to make friends than enimies.

 

What the fuck!?

Is that all hippies do is bitch bitch bitch man?

SORRY, I STILL LOVE YA JOEY!!!! :hug:

 

dude, why'd you push his books off his desk? that was pretty mean.

 

Indeed, and I agree fullheartly with Crazylegs. I would find it pretty offensive if someone pushed my books on the floor. Never saw things like that as playing around, but like an easy way to 'get even'. It was good of you not to fight him, but daring him to hit you was pretty stupid

 

good job man. hopefully that kid will grow up some day. his little brain wants to satisfy his anger rather than going by common sense. he would rather have a few seconds of glory rather than a lifetime of love and understanding.

 

I think pushing his books off was a dumb thing to do, no offense, but once you did it I think you handeled it very well. bravo

 

wel way 2 b a pussy, its all cool dat u didnt wanna fight but he punched u nd u didnt do nuthin, dats emberassing

 

I wish I had the courage to do something like that, stand up for what I believe in and dare someone to hit me. What you said to him was so cool. "If you wanna be a man and look manly..." that was cool!
I don't think it was embarrassing for you to have done nothing after he hit you twice. It was the right thing to do. Don't let anyone tell you you did the wrong thing. That's the way I always react when people hit me at school. (it happens alot more than you'd think! lol)

Hope your face isn't too badly hurt.
Luv u loads my brother

Much peace love and hugs wished from me
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

indeed, what everyone says. Fighting doesnt solve anything. Its really good what you did, proud of ya