Why should it be the role of a male to offer himself to a woman and if has already offered himself a several occasions why should he be oblidged to keep on offering himself? At what point does it become harrasment?
Depends on your relationship with the woman I think. I've had guys who are friends who offered two or three times in a conversation, but I always brushed it off as him just being him and didn't think anything of it. But, if some strange guy or someone I barely know propositions me, and he becomes aggressive with it, then that's a sign to me to stay away from him. It's not always the male's role to offer himself. There have been a few occaisions, when I knew the guy was into me, that I said, "Hey, why don't you come and pick me up and we'll go and hve sex." But again, this has been to good friends... I don't do the one night stand with a stranger thing. Why don't you explain the situation, and maybe it will be easier to give some solid advice.
huh!!! offer what, do u mean sex, marriage, time? won't give this more time into this discussion until you clarify.
^^ that's not all of it. If it's sex ur talking about than that's cos u men beat us to it. Most women are slower to be aroused than men and the first to be roused well is the first to propose. Women need some sort of emotional attachment and most men do not, emotional attachment takes time. If u want us to be the first to propose than that's gonna require patience on your part.
Thats not always true either. I know plenty of women who enjoy casual sex. I actually think it depends on the generation and how people grew up and the views they place on sex roles in the relationship.
I have never fully understood the whole idea of waiting for a man I am interested in to proposition me. If I want him then I will step up and say something. It is a waste of time for both people involved to sit around hoping somebody will make the first move. Life is too damned short....make the move, and if it doesn't work out....move on.
I don't think it is the role of a male to repeatedly offer himself to a woman. Offer once and then stop trying (grasping). Also, in the workplace, you are allowed to ask once, anything further is sexual harassment.
^^ OMGosh I didn't read all of it like that, but ur right. OP if he has already offered himself on several occasions then he is certainly not obliged to keep it up, in fact there's enough clues that he should just stop and move on. Any more than 3 times and it becomes harassment. Like already said life is too short for many of us to play the hard to get game, I'll let the guy know in no uncertain terms that I'm interested.
And I don't think "most women" are like that any more. Especially women under the age of 40. I know very few women who don't make the first move when they want someone or something.
^^^ uhhh if they want someone, that's the key, usu. someone wants them before they want someone so it turns out that men make the move first. The baby boomers gen, not that I'm one, ushered in free love, sex revolution. The generation after them were the sex, drugs and rock 'n roll generation so don't think the 40+ women are so conservative. And stop making out as if I'm over 40.
