Tonight we were at a concert, me, my boyfriend and some friends n his dad. When my boyfriend and everyone walked away, lances dad hugged me for like 10 minutes and started crying and kept apologizing to me and stuff. Lances parents are in the middle of a divorce, his dad lives with his gf, who he hates being with, but stays with her cuz he has no place else to go. He just found out he has diabetes, and hes currently unemployed. I love this man so much. Hes the most kind, wonderful, hard working, peaceful guy. I dont know what to do like, it hurts us all so bad seeing him so upset. What can we do to make him happy?
just be there for him, and make sure he knows you are my dad got diabetes around midlife too, it's a really tough thing for a person to deal with, just always try to be helpful and always make sure he knows how much he means to you and such
where are you and your bf living now? if you two are living together or the bf is living on his own, you could offer to let the dad couch surf til he finds a joba nd gets on his own 2 feet *shrugs*
Im not living with my boyfriend, im still living with my parents. Man I wish I had my own place id let him stay there in a heartbeat.
im not sure i think just because of all the crap thats going on. its not his fault tho. and later he was apologizing cuz he thought he ruined the night.
Maybe have him over with your family for dinner, make him feel included especially now because he is going through a divorce. Maybe go on a day trip with him, your bf, and his dads gf, (sixflags, or beach, or whatever) Cook him some food he can reheat?
The father of your boyfriend must be in his 40s and he has no business crying on the shoulder of his son's 17 y/o girlfriend. Sorry, nice guy aside, he should have a little pride and act like the dad and an adult. I would be very weary of this person. Really! Crying on a young girls shoulder and then whining about ruining the night. Grow up old man.
yeah way harsh. He's going through alot right now, Relationship problems, health problems. Give him a break, i'd rather see his true feelings than have him act all fake until he blows his brains out from keeping it all inside
Sorry, but I don't see my response as harsh. Got problems? See a counselor, join a group of your peers or talk to a minister, but don't make your kids girlfriend your shoulder to cry on. She doesn't deserve that nor does she have the life experience to offer meaningful help to a divorced, unemployed middle aged man with health issues.. The fact that he waited until everyone else went away to cry on the girls shoulder make me wonder if he is predatory. At very least he needs more help that he can get from a 17 y/o at a concert.
^ agreed the dude needs an outlet, and seems to only have 2 people in the whole world who are truly sympathetic to him. in times of hardship you rely on family and those close to you - even if they are younger. when my stepdads closest friend died last month i was there for him, i held him when he was on the verge of tears so that he could hide his face from everyone else... you are there for thsoe you care about when they need you, regardless of the persons age
What the hell is this dude doing putting a mind trip on you? Be careful. This dude wants something more than pitty. You're a very desirable young lady. I would be very careful. Make sure he knows his boundries. And, I wouldn't let it include hugging you. That should be reserved for his son.
