I have a crush on one of my bosses...

CRAP! Just what I DIDN'T want to happen...

So, I live in a camp with 13 people...very isolated. We all pretty much hang out together and we know eachother's business...so to start a relationship of any kind is pretty much a big dramatic situation. Although, quickly people are pairing up.

On Saturday night, all but three of us went camping on the other side of the island. Me, one of my bosses (Alex), and my trailer-mate Krispen stayed because we worked at a different camp during the day...well Alex made us dinner and we hung out and watched movies together that night. Krispen went to bed and Alex and I stayed up and chatted, he played the guitar (which melts my heart everytime a guy does that ANYWAY) and we started to talk about what was going on in camp with the new "couples" and we then began to talk about relationships and stuff. Somehow we got on the subject of "types" and he asked me what my type WAS...and as I began to describe my type I realize, "Oh crap, Alex is my type!"

It's a weird situation though because not only do we work together, we live together basically, and the thirteen people I live with are also my social circle...so it's a very strange situation.

I guess it's just, the more I hang out with him, the more I begin to realize that I really like him...It's such a unique situation that I've never been involved in.

CRAP! Any advice???

 

if the others are pairing up and you really like this guy then don't hold back , go for it and tell him how you feel ! by the sound of things he seems intrested in you =]

 

don't worry about it, don't worry about what others will think, don't worry about what might or might not happen, just let things flow naturally
that's the only advice i could give you
just let things happen
don't put too much pressure on it

 

live in a camp? if you dont mind me asking, what do you do?

sorry its off topic

 

go with the flow.

 

you can either try and ignore it to keep from making things very compliated
or you can go with it and see where it leads. it may just be worthwhile yknow...

 

I live on an island off the coast of L.A. teaching marine science in an isolated camp right on the ocean...kids come in during the week and we take them snorkeling, kayaking, hiking, and teach them lots of great stuff about fish, sharks, and invertebrates. It's awesome and I love it

 

I guess I wouldn't be so freaked out about it if we didn't work AND live together. There's a lot of "what-ifs" associated with this. What if things don't work out between us? or what if something kind of negative happens. He's the level between me and my head boss...so he's one level above me...would that affect my working relationship with him?

I've been finding myself getting jealous when some of the other girls here are sitting next to him and being super friendly (it's weird, we're all very friendly here...we sit on eachother's laps and cuddle with one another...male and female...some might get freaked out if you ever came here...but it's just kind of how it is...)...and I'm not a jealous person at all...but I'm always like, dang it...I want to cuddle with him, but I guess I'm a little afraid to...

It's also sort of hard because he hasnt' really been in a relationship in a long while, so he's pretty much relationshipally inept at this point and has absolutely NO game! LOL

Yeah so...*shrugs* I don't know.

 

well, the only thing I can think of, is since 13 is an odd number, and everyone's pairing up, someone's going to be the odd-man-out. So, I think you should either give it a go with Alex, ~or~ risk being the odd one out, ~or~ (funner still) grouping into a threesome.

 

No game should be good ,shouldn't it?Wouldn't that mean "he's showing who he really is?Or do I misunderstand?

 

LOL well...there are eight girls and five guys. Three of the girls are already in relationships back home...so it pretty much evens out, I guess. haha

 

What I mean by having no game is that he doesn't really know how to flirt or express to a girl that he's interested...

 

I generally agree with this...however, I don't just want to fuck him..I really want to get to know him in an intimate way...relationship-wise...He and I are both too old for that and it would be way toooooo awkward for a random hook-up when you live with them LOL

 

go for it

 

fuck it. go for it. she's young, beautiful and needing some love. there will be other jobs and other relationships.

 

yea, fucking negative nancy wants to be a debbie downer for this whole thing

 

well, it's REALLY good advice, for when you're older and your WHOLE LIFE rides on making right decisions. annies young enough to really enjoy the technically bad ones.

 

exactly - which is why we dont' need no debbie downers here

 

I don't know Dancer Annie. I'd love to say go for it, but the fact that he is in a position above you could complicate things. And are you sure you're really into him or are you just getting caught up in the whole 'everyone's doing it' mentality?

 

No, I'm actually pretty into him. I think he's great. He's smart, funny, he's great with kids, he's adventurous, loves the outdoors...like I said, when I was describing my type with him is when I realized that...whoa...he IS my type...I've been pretty wrapped up with being in a new place and wrapped up with myself...that I forgot that there was other people around and that I was/would be actually interested in someone. Now that I'm becoming more comfortable in my surroundings and getting used to everything, I realize that I might have feelings for someone again...

And does everyone really think it would be THAT big of a mistake?