i know this may sound messed up, but ill give y'all a little overview well, my father has constantly said he wants to divorce my mother, and live a life of a fillanderer (sp?) or for those that arent familiar with that term, he wants to be the kind of older man who dates young women and such. my parents argue and bicker usually, although none of this bothers me. i dont care if my parents get a divorce, and my mother, being the kind lady she is is offering to pull thru and put me in college, so is my dad, but overall, we are going to split up however, i dont want to live with either of my parents, my father says he will get a divorce when im 18, and after taht, i just want to live my own life, by myself, not necesarily my own lavish hosue of apartment, but just make my own path without my parents i dont know, im not upset about this, and im actually kind of optimistic/happy what do y'all think
I'd say that seems normal to me. I wouldn't want to live with either of them or their baggage either, it takes its toll on a person pretty quickly, especially one that is just starting their own life. I myself moved out almost as soon as I turned 18, to escape a strained relationship with my mother (and that's putting it mildly). I was trying to escape mental and emotional damage and my own baggage from it. Unfortunately it didn't work but I know if I had stayed any longer, I'd have more. It was good that I moved out when I did. You are probably already going to have some issues resulting from your parents' dysfunctional relationship but hopefully they will be minor. Your father doesn't sound like he'd provide a very stable and productive home for you, and your mother may be dealing with hurt that it might be a relief on her own shoulders not to have to worry about you, but please be sure to keep in touch with her constantly if you move out on your own and often offer to help her with things like mowing her lawn and whatnot. She'll need you. And you'll need her, too. You can make your own way and still be there for her as a son. Good luck.
welll, my father is a hardworking man, and i have had a good up bringing, so he aint that bad, and my mother is strong, despite the bickering but i feel that i am just a burden on them and i just need to leave
just so you know, he's probably had a woman on the side, or a few flings. if he's saying he wants to be a philanderer(which has naught to do with age), he's probably been down that road. Sounds like a joking-painful rub at your mom. as for being OK with it, well, I always thought I was a weird kid for being relieved when my folks split when I was 10. But it was relief from tensions that had been building for reasons known and unknown.
same here...my parents recently split up in january and home life has never been better...my dad once even asked me if itd be better if he left and i told him it would...x x x
I was completely devastated when my parents split up, but now that its all said and done It's worked out for the best in a lot of ways. Its still hard, but for the most part better. People usually split up for a good reason and the kids are actually better off in the long run without all the fighting/tension to deal with. It's good you can see that positive side of it now... it took me awhile to get it. Sounds like your parents will still both be there to support you if/when you need them which is a great thing. You probably will be better off.
