social conditioning against physical intimacy

I want to start this off by saying that there is nothing wrong with my relationship. Nothing, whatsoever. In the 8 months we've been dating, we've never fought or have even been mad at each other. I don't want to sound arrogant, but it's damn near perfect.
But sometimes, I feel like there is.

We haven't quite had sex yet, but that doesn't stop our relationship from being extremely physical. We make out all the time everywhere (though not usually during movies, I hate that.) We still talk a lot, have incredibly wonderful conversations, movie worthy dialogue at times, but I don't think we've had a conversation that didn't at least tap on how hot the other day was or bad I want to kiss her right this second. And this is perfectly fine.

But sometimes my subconcious tries to tell me it isn't. I mean, I've even told my friend previous to finding my gal, that his relationship didn't seem serious because of how sexual they are. I grew up with a media that told me that physical interaction is a dessert, and should never be on the same plate as the main course.
The only thing ever telling me otherwise were people on Real Sex when I had HBO for like 6 months, and a few people on this here site. And a character on an episode of Home Improvement in his mild way. But compare that to I'm sure hundreds of thousands of other sources on how relationships (are supposed to) work.
This feeling is one of the most annoying itches I've ever had, and I just can't seem to scratch it.
Any input, assurance, comments, questions, similar situations, etc. is welcome.

 

You just have to enjoy the ride, nothing ever measures up if your scrutinizing it all the time. No doubt you want sex but your only options ever in life are to go with it or get away from it.

 

Physical attraction grows with mental connection, what do you want? Forget what you were told and go with what fells right.

 

yep forget this part (how relationships (are supposed to) work) and do what you feel and think i know that may be tough for you cause of the conditioning but get your mind right about what you want

 

Would you rather be with someone you're not attracted to?

You should count yourself lucky. Your relationship has the whole package. You guys are mentally, emotionally, and physically connected. Most relationships struggle with one of those three main components. Like my last relationship. He was everything I wanted mentally and emotionally, but we were completely incompatible physically, so we had to break it off.

Eventually you guys will probably have sex, be going at it like rabbits for awhile, and then the spark will fade a little, and you can focus on the mental and emotional aspects of your relationship more.

For now you guys are young, and happy, so do what makes you feel good. Don't let society tell you what is and isn't "right" in a relationship. Every single relationship is different and without the sexual spark you guys seem to have your relationship probably wouldn't have lasted this long anyway. If you didn't have it, you'd be posting in Love and Sex with a whole different set of problems. :tongue:

Good luck and stay happy.

 

thank you all, but especially you smelly socks, for some reason, yours seemed to hit me the best

 

No problem. Just glad to help.

 

You just seem to have a healthier relationship than most people do. Your relationship sounds wonderful.

Enjoy it!!

 

Not downing on your relationship, but how havent you had sex with eachtoher? How old are you both? Are you still a virgin?

 

^ I'm 18, she's 17
we are both virgins, and she apparently likes to take things (very) slow, which I thing is good for the relationship, and whatever makes her comfortable, but it's starting to kill me =P
but we are getting there


and umm..ya, thanks very much