Whats wrong with being a Nice Guy

why is everyone over-generalizing?! It has less to do with "nice" and "dick" and more to do with the energy put into a person. If you're initially giving *too* much of yourself (stereotypical nice guy), than the other person will naturally be put off because it's overkill and you gotta wonder what else there is.

*example* Many moons ago I went out on 1 date with some dude who showed up with a teddy bear. I barely knew this guy... why would he think I'd want a stuffed animal from him? I never called him again. I'm sure in his mind he was sooooo nice... but in mine I'm thinking "this guy is trying WAY too hard." Why would you give so much to a person so quickly? Relationships take time to grow. Not to be cynical... but does every girl you have a thing for deserve to be cried over or given stuffed toys ? Hell no. Save that energy for the girl who deserves it.

"Nice" is treating everyone with kindness and respect... not constantly swooning over a girl who doesn't reciprocate. If she DOES reciprocate, but then turns around and starts dating someone else than GOOD RIDDENS.

 

that's kind of the point of my last post. and my first one, actually.

 

when i first started dating my husband, he was not good looking to me. not immediately, but he WAS very attractive to me somehow, on a deeply physical and mental level. one day, he threw me his goofy smile and it all clicked into place. he's changed quite a bit, he's gotten GORGEOUS. he was just in an akward phase. i lean towards men with big noses. you're either attracted or not.

 

same here!^ always been attracted to guys with big noses... combination big nose, beautiful eyes drives me wild

I've never been attracted to objectively "hot" guys... I prefer more character to a person's face.

 

my older brother was one of those model types. endlessly popular, talented, blah blah blah. he was s dick to every girlfriend he had. needless to say, i've never found those guys attractive.

 

neither. I like hot and I like depth so sue me. But I got both anyways

There seems to be an obsession with being with someone no matter what. I was single for 3 years, traveling around the country, til I met my fiance... and it was all good!!! It allowed me the time to enter into this relationship without any past hang ups, because I took the time to sort it all out in my mind. In other words, I waited for someone WORTHY.

You don't have to pick between your options if they're not good, just wait, or in my case travel, til you find what you like. I brag about importing my man (from the florida keys woohoo) bc I don't think I would of found one around here

 

i had to move to the rocky mountains...

 

Well I have never actually met a nice guy, so I wouldn't know. They all seem that way to begin with.

So far I have thought that I was with nice guy's, but turns out that I am just naive. I wanted a nice guy, but it didn't end up that way. Maybe girls think they are getting with the nice guy, but the A holes end up with them because they are so good at lying.

 

i got a nice guy who can be an aggressive dick when he needs to. it's a win win situation so far as i'm concerned.

 

ha ha
I was exactly like you op
now im still a nice guy but baaad in some other ways,
ill leave that to your imagination