(I'm looking for female opinions, but guys can contribute too) A classy and theatrical way to confess deep seeded affections for a girl i know and see on a daily basis. Is it smart, or is it not? I've never met a girl i liked enough to look at her the way i look at this girl, and because of this, i've never really pursued a relationship. I know she likes me, but i'm not sure to what extent.... I have a feeling in my gut that if i am to try, it should be something big and public. Like singing one of my favorite Frank Sinatra songs to her when she's least expecting it. BUT (yup, what you've been waiting for) This may do the exact opposite of what i hope. I guess my question is, If a guy you kinda liked and thought was decent enough confessed his feelings in a public manor and made a spectacle of himself wile doing so, would this turn your views of him be different positively or negatively? Would you be more flattered than embarrassed or visa-versa?
Doing something overly public wouldn't be a very good choice, because it'd put her in the spotlight unexpectedly, and sorry, but would be embarrassing as hell for her to have some guy buddy of hers to burst out like that. Trust me, ten things I hate about you isn't a good model for breaking into relationships > The most public you should get about it is like say something obvious with a good three people in the room, if you're lucky, people you both know. Or you could sort of not say anything huge and kind of ease your way into it by talking to her more often, and getting your foot in the door. I understand the want you might have for going out and confessing it to her, but depending on the relationship you have with her, it could just make it weird or awkward. Either way, good luck man
^^agreed, publi display when you are unsure of her feelings will just lead to mocking, awkwardness, and embarrassment. ok, its not a guarnatee, but a probably.
Yea i agree with lanslide. I wouldnt be embarassed if my boyfriend would have done that but some girls do. You dont even know if she has the same feelings towards you and then you would be humiliated if she rejected you infront of a lot of people. If you want to tell her how you feel maybe write her a letter and give it to her with a rose or some other flower.
^^^ I agree, you could be heading for the humiliation of being rejected publicly, plus some girls may get weirded out by it, I would. Think of how hard it would be to live it down. If you want theatrical go for the rose as mentioned, but privately...ummm to me a guy with his mouth clamped down on a rose for me is sexy :tongue:.
I agree... I don't think public humiliation for the both of you is a very good idea. I think it's really sweet that you wanted to make that big of a gesture, but I would find out exactly how she feels before making a spectacle of myself. If you must sing, do it in private.... I actually think it's cute when a guy sings to me, even when he can't sing well. It's a sweet gesture.
Yeah XP, thnx. Just asking to keep myself in check. I have a habit of either missing my chance, or going overboard. So, it just helps to have some opinions. I had heard that she had a big crush on me at one point, but i don't really know where that went. Had i known that in the past i would be a little more confident with my approach, but yeah, thnx for everything ;D.
I was pretty much in the same situation around your age with a girl and if I were you, I'd just call her up tell her how you feel. If you don't, you'll end up like me and regret not doing something about it when you had a chance.
