Well I will give you some detail as why I want to run away... well I did some thing a few years ago (3 or 4) that were bad.. Stole,lied... introuble with the law.. But I strengthed up ( I guess you culd say) and I haven't lied or stolen and no problems with the law... but my step dad never look past my mistakes.. He always brings up that time I did this or time I did that. And he fights and argue with me over little things.. Like the tv left on or not pushin in a chair.. He expects me to his read mind. And this causes a lot of problems with my mom also cause she is caught in the middle but always ends up siding with him.
And I'm basicly am wondering is there away I culd runaway to canada... I looked up emanicpation but I just don't think the judge will see my points... many people to my to tought it out but its harder then it seems... for the last 5 years or so with my step dad I have devloped a lot of problems... I just dontknow what to do shuld I stay here work my job and try to get an emanicpation?... stay here and runaway or live with a friend(most likely wuldnt beable to) or run away to canada?? Culd I get there with out a passport? Wuld I be in a lot of trouble if I ever tried to come back to the US?? Tell me what you wuld sugguest.. Thanks
Well, when you run away and the police tracks you down and drags your ass home, you're going to have even more problems with your family. You're almost 18 anyway. Just wait it out and move out the old fashioned way.
I left home at 17. I graduated H.S. in June and didn't turn 18 until Sept. 2 days after graduation I was on a plane to Alaska with my mom's blessings. The only problem was I had to drive on my Calif. drivers license until I was 18 and was able to sign for myself. Find a job with a bunk house situation so you don't end up on the streets. Once your a homeless teenager on the streets it's pretty hard to pull yourself up. Or see about enrolling in "Job Corps" or a similar training program. Most young people who "run away" aren't prepared to start taking on all the responsibilities of holding a job, paying rent, taking care of your clothes, shopping ,etc... Plus being taken advantage by other kids who, "just need a place to crash for a few days". That means eat your food, wont clean up after themselves, sleep all day and stay stoned.
Exactly.... I had many problems with my father since childhood. Every other day fists would be flying, cops being called, yelling, screaming, just an unreal fucking war zone. One night he was angry (like always) and threw my moms purse and hit her in the face and I FLIPPED!! I was so furious by the time I was finished hitting him with the bat he was laying in a pool of blood (extremely mind fucking dude) I got scared and ran across 7 state lines!!! I had a friend in Boston and stayed with him for a few days. I had talked to a buddy of mine a few days after the incident and he called my mom, who called the police, who came up to the college looking for me. Once I heard this I dipped and went farther north to NH. After about a week the Derry police caught me sleeping outside of a local elementary school and tried to arrest me for trespassing. I ran through the woods to try to get away and when I was finally caught and trasported back home it was SOOOOOOOO much worse even though it taught me a valuable lesson. So IMO running away never SOLVES your problems, it usually makes them worse (take my advice.....seriously lol) but like she said you got one more year and you can be on your own. I know its' hard being a teenager, especially when your in a house you hate!! But believe me you could have it much, much, much, much, much, much, much worse!!!!! STAY STRONG!!!!!
Besides he's your stepdad................ In reality itself all he is, is some random guy your mom met...Thats it, no relation to you personally. If he don't like you or your decisions or your lifestyle or your choices or anything guess what hunnie...........IT DOES NOT MATTER. Isn't that the most reassuring thing in the world!! It does not matterarty:
Have you tried talking with your mom and step dad about this situation as best you can first? I mean it sounds like your all clashing, what if you TRIED talking out the differences as BEST you can. Something I seriously suggest is finishing high school at the very least, you'll need to have that completed to at least have a Goodish job. Cause in canada its harder (supposedly) to get a full time job if you haven't completed high school. Running away won't solve your problems it sounds like it runs deeper than you not pushing in the chair or turning the telly off. Running away will probably hurt your mom and not make it a whole lot better. Trust me its going to be hell living on your own... it's expensive to live in Canada or at least where I live. Just really think about your options before you make the a decision because you may not like the end result. I wish you the best of luck and hope that some how you find some peace within your home.
I have tried to talk to them maybe times even been going to many consulor sessions but it seems as if it only gets worse. We fight more often when we try to solve our problems then when we ignore each other but either way it doesn't help the situation
I feel for your situation. It's such a shame on the parents when they can't even try to communicate with their children. My advice is stick it out for another year or so, save up, and move out.....
to be honest, i moved out at 17 without any emancipation and without any issues. i did get along with my parents, but do you truly think your parents would object to you moving out? are you working enought o support living on your own? cuz if you are, find a little bachelor pad, or a uni/college student looking for a roommate, pay your share and pull youru weight for hosuehold chores and youll be fine.
air ski- Running away to canada w/ out a passport cdoes not solve any problems. we have so much security now its pathetic. secondly why don't you have a 1-1 talk with your mom & a 1-1 talk with your step dad i can understand where your coming from . on both parts . i had a wicked step mother & i am a step parent but not a mean one (broke that chain) give that a try and see how that works, ppl have their own issues . Maybe your mom and s-dad are going through their own difficulities right now and need your support right now. Hang out with some of your good friends -friends you can talk to that won't talk behind your back ... and see if things change.
How many months until your 18? Probably just enough to save some money and make a plan. C'mon dude..it's so obvious.
Well, I've said it before and I'll say it again, kids don't come with instruction books. He's acting toward you just the same way he was treated when he was coming up. Have sympathy for him. You've only got months until you can leave legally. If he isn't physically abusive and as long as the mental stuff isn't continues (24/7), just hang in there. If it's too much to handle, go see the child protective people. It doesn't sound that way to me though. Just sounds like the stepdad is f'd up and not aware of what he's doing. He thinks he's helping.
