I suffer from performance issues and it is all in my head! When my I want to have sex with my wife, I cant get hard but I can do it just fine when i am alone and masterbating. So the pipes work, i just get anxiety attacks. I am married to a very sexy woman who I think intimidates me sexually, she used to be an exotic dancer. i worry that i have never really pleased her sexually and so I think my subconscious doesnt let myself get hard so I wont fail in my performance. f'd up arent I? i fear this is going to ruin my marriage or that she'll need to get satisfaction elsewhere. she assures me that everything is cool and she says this will pass but it seems to be getting worse. i dont think i need drugs, just confidence. i feel like a baseball batter is a major slump. now that i have these fears, i am so scared that i will fail that as soon as we start to get intimate, i am in a panic attack. ugh.
