Post-College Quarter Life Crisis

I drank in college, I had adventures. It was very bad at times but overall was a good thing. I had wild life ambitions that came and went, but I never had to take things too seriously.

I graduated over a year ago. I have done very little since them. i'm paralyzed by possibilities and fear. so im still living at home. i want to go away but i dont know where to go. my anxiety is so high that i get nothing done and just worry, and go back to my school every chance i get to be with my friends who are still there, who will soon be graduating and making something of themselves.

Anyone else go through this?

 

you know, the flow of this, and it's universality, is just SCREAMING for someone to make it into a decent country song.

 

i'm kinda going through it...but i'm still at school...most of my friends have graduated though...my anxiety beats me down at times, and i feel useless and don't want to do anything...but i force myself to....

 

ayup. sounds about right to me.

 

Actually, I know exactly what you are talking about.

I went through it too. I graduated in December...and realized...OH shit, the gave me this piece of paper and now "they" expect me to do something great and wonderful with it.

But where the hell do I even start? Do I want to stay here? Do I want to move on? Should I move out of my parents house? Can I afford it? Now I have to pay my loans off...

Should I start looking for a mate? What if I'm not good enough to make it in this world?

Yeah...it happens...but, you have to just remember that everything will happen the way it's supposed to. This "quarter life crisis" happened to me in January...I got pregnant in February (thought that was my direction in life and grew to accept that)...I had a miscarriage the first week in April, not a week later I had a job offer in California at a marine science camp on an island. It's September and I'm living on this beautifully amazing island doing stuff I love to do.

Send out resumes, something will fall into your lap...and if you don't like it...move on...if you do...keep doing it...nothing has to be set in stone in our twenties...this is our time to learn, explore, and discover what we want to do with our lives

Good luck!

 

What a very inspirational post Annie! Well done.

I'm in that spot right now where I just graduated, but haven't found a job in that area. I'm working a job that I'm well over qualified to do for less money that I should be making. I'm livin in between the lines with what I can make till I find something to take me on the next wave of life.

My only advise would be not to let yourself do something that you don't enjoy. Any job is better than no job, but don't get stuck in something long term that brings you down.

 

im just going back to school now, so i got a whhile before i have that anxiety;

 

I get anxiety about being unsuccessful in my college ventures. Wanting to be a writer isn't exactly the kind of job that you can find something in the classifieds.

A lot of people have post-college fears. It's a big world out there. I'm sure you'll find something, just check your classifieds and force yourself to get out there and do it!

 

i graduated over a year ago and haven't even tried to find a job in that area. partly because there are none until i go back for an advanced degree, and i'm not quite ready for more school right now. but i'm actually pretty content working my menial job for now; it's kind of like a long vacation.