another woman pregnant with my fiancee's child...

done

 

Man, you are enthusiastic!

 

yes, sweety, i been there in fact i am still there.

I got pregnant with my best friend's husband! During a Swinging thing'!
it was once and done, but enough to make a mistake and i found out i was pregnant with her husband's baby!
Now i wish she was as supporting as you are with your husband, cause my friend in this case was all for abortion and hated me as soon as i told her!
I decided to keep this baby and i am happy to say she is happy now and healthy, she was born alittle early, but totally loved, by me and my husband, and her real father from the sidelines!
We agreed from the begining that we would raise this baby, (me and my husband) and didnt want anything from them in terms of child support!
It isnt something that i normally air out, but i talked about this subject on another form, and everything so alot of people know what im talking about.
My daughter i have with my best friends husband , gets treated no different then any of my other kids that belong to me and my husband'.
She is a wonderful little angel, and im glad to have her.!
Now in terms of the husband and my friend, well they are having a harder time dealing with this cause my friend, she only had boy's, with her husband,
and this would have been her husband's very first GIRL.
so she feel's that i stole this baby from her, even tho it is mine, i carryed the baby, and she came from my body, she feel's it should have been her pregnant and with a girl.
And i can't help up agree with her and if i could do pregnancy transplant
! i would! But in realitity you can't do that.
I think i was very brave to carry this baby to term, with so much stacked againest me, but then again, i am married too, and i have 4 other children, with my husband! It isn't as easy as just leaving and saying , see ya!
You on the other hand arent married, and he is just your boyfriend or fiance
My advice to you is, (YOU MAKE SURE) "He take's care of his child he made with this woman, cause this will be "in a way" your test run, to see what kind of father he will be to your children if you 2 ever get married and have kids. and it will show you what kind of man he really is overall!!!!!!

In terms on my situation, The husband who got me pregnant, told me from the start , he wanted nothing to do with it, and let his wife, my friend, make all the decisions when it came to , if he would see her and when and what, and so on....which is totally bullshit.
You make sure he take's care of that baby.
and if he don't , get the fuck out of dogde, you dont need that shit!
Boyfriend's come and go, don't get involved if this turns ugly!
You sound like a understanding woman, but understanding women sometimes get taken avantage of, and i dont want to see you be taken like that.
If thing's dont work out with this woman and your husband, where the child is concerned, i think you just need to say HEy" IM DOne AND MORE ON.
A man who run's from his blood, is NO MAN AT ALL!
and it is just a reflection of what might happen to you as well@!
Keep that in mind, that is the best advice i can give you!
Learn from my mistakes!

 

hahaha. it's funny that you say this because me and my fiancee already have a child together. See the girl in my signature? That's her! She's 15 months old.

I do understand where she's coming from about the girl/boy thing. I kind of feel like I hope her baby is a girl because I want to have his first boy. You know?

 

Tamee, I take my hats off you..I dunno what i'll do if i'm in ur situation and i dont think i'm noble enuff..

kudos

 

Well I talked to this girl through MySpace and she says she has endometriosis, which can cause infertility. So she's going to see her doctor on Thursday and find out what the chances are of her carrying the baby to term.

This is a weird spot to be in...Go Infertility!???

 

Well first off I commend you for not shredding his penis and feeding it to him. Second for thinking about the other womans feeling and lastly for being concerned about the future child!

I think no matter what things are gonna obviously be complicated but mainly should be uncomfortable for him and not the other woman and you. I just hope you will for the long run be able to ignore that fact that he rapidly left you and was with another, that he shall further appreciate the sacrifices your willing to make for each other.

Seems your attitude implies that if anyone could make it work you could!

 

yeah, i didnt know you already had a child, i dont think you metioned that in your post, but anyways, im glad you are being open minded to this, my situation didn't come across as that, and it was a nasty begining , and it is going to be a nasty end, i see it coming.
But all and all, make sure , (if the child is his) that he takes care of it
and that you kick him in the ass every chance you get if he doesnt!"
bUT get a DNA test, cause if this would turn bad, it would suck to have your husband Paying for a child that isnt his! Just my advice!
BE CAREFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

yeah we're definitely going to have to get a paternity test.

but I don't think I'm going to kick his ass if he doesn't do this or that. that's just the way I am. his life is his own and I am not here to tell him what to do. It is solely up to him to do the right thing and if he doesn't he will be the one to pay for it in the end. I am not his mother.

about him leaving me and so quickly getting with someone else, I am completely understanding. After we broke up I almost immediately got hooked up by my mom's friend into a sort of date with this other guy and I went with it. Now, I probably wouldn't have had sex with him, but my fiancee is an incredibly horny guy. lol. and he drank more in those two months of us being apart than I can even imagine. So I can see why he did it. I mean, he was lonely and heartbroken and DRUNk all the time hahaha and a girl came along and tried to make him feel better. Plus she really likes him. Anyway,

Today she goes to the doctor to see about her endometriosis.

 

Yeah, but even if she has that, (SHES PREGNANT)!

yOU can still carry a baby and have that problem!
You are high risk, but it doesnt really mean you can't carry a baby.
What i find interesting is (most of the time) that condiction provents you from getting pregnant! So just the fact that she got pregnant with that condiction tells me that it can't be that bad, so just keep a eye on what she tells you, just in case she is not being totally honest! and or (lieing?)
Girls can do that, as im sure you are aware of, since she does :"Like him"
Im a Emt and know alot about medical thing's, so i can tell you that
it shouldn't provent her from carrying, it normally provents you from getting pregnant in the first place!
Just watch! Good luck!

 

oohhh

well crap. she will probably have the baby, then. Huh?

What do you mean about not trusting what she says just because she likes him? What could she want to say to me that's not true? That she doesn't like him? well that doesn't really affect anything, you know? It doesn't affect my relationship with him or anything. I guess it could cause some drama down the road, though.

 

just be careful, i have known a girl whos boyfriend got another girl pregnant or (so this girl said) and the baby ended up not even being his! And he was at the birth and all! I think that is rotten, this girl liked him and thought by telling him this was his baby, she would somehow convince him into stayin with her, well it didnt work nor was the baby even his, its sad, but some girls do that.

Also, i understand she has nothing to gain about lieing that she is pregnant,
but trust me when i tell you this , the drama is better then any amount of gain she could get, and for some girls that is enough reward for them!

I have known people who went thru simlur situation's, and all i can tell ya is just be VERY CAREFUL!
and protect yourselfs! Don't just take her word's at face value, You have more at steak then just loosing a boyfriend, You have a family!

 

some girls are drama queens, and it's a sad story. What pisses me off though is guys assuming we all are, because of the few (of perhaps many) that make it seem that way.

They give us a bad name. I don't cause problems, but I don't ignore them either, and to some that is enough to staple me with that bad assumption. I hope she isn't a bitch, but take all accounts into mind. You just don't know.

 

well thank god I know that will never happen.
there's nothing that can break us up even if this child really is his.

but you're right, I shouldn't trust her words. Ill just see what happens.

 

Never say never,"i MEAN that is the reason you 2 broke up to begin with isnt it? when he made this child with this other woman? but on the other hand from the sound of it, sounds like you have a strong relationship, but dont ever take someone elses word at face value, don't trust what she say's , till you see the proof, some women are like that.
lieing, munipulitive , and conning "nOT ALL BUT SOME" and those are the women who would end up biting your hubby in the ass..so just be careful!

In a situation like this, You find out really quick, "Who your friend's are"
AND "Who your enemy's are"! Just be careful! Let us know how it works out!

 

While I applaud your attitude about everything Tamee I also agree with the suggestion to "be careful"

It is sickening how many women will pull the "I'm pregnant" crap to get a guy. I was dating a guy, and he had a fling. Well, he comes to me in a panic because she was pregnant. Well, I wasn't serious about him nor him me and we stopped dating shortly after (for other reasons). So, he decides to do the "right" thing and starts dating her. A month later I saw him and he tells me how she lost the baby but he thought she was lying about it. (*I am in no way making light of miscarriages*) Anyway, he found out for sure that she lied and used a miscarriage as an excuse (long, boring story). She just wanted him to be with her and didn't care how she got him.

The moral of the story is "don't put it past someone to be manipulative and dishonest when you happen to have what they want" in this case your fiance.

You would think that she would have done something to prevent the pregnancy if she had health concerns. I guess I would have to know the exact situation, but on a guess I would say she is either lying (being pregnant, and/or your fiance is the father) or did it intentionally.

If my husband and I split and he slept with someone who turned out to be pregnant I would be more pissed about him not using a condom than her being pregnant Her being pregnant isn't a threat to my health. His lack of condom use is. But, that is just my feelings on it.

 

I agree 100%, just be careful, no one really know's a person 100%, NEVER.

you always here that shit on tv all the time, "well i didnt really think he would ever do something like this, AND or , he or she didnt seem like that kinda person.

The more you live the more you realize there are alot of people in the world that want to stab you in the back then be your friend, and as i said before, keep your eyes open, and your mind open, and dont forget a word she tells you.
yOU just might catch her in a lie.
But if she isnt lieing and she is pregnant, i would get a DNA test, without a dought, and dont let her talk him into signing nothing before hand.
He has the right to a DNA test before he signs any papers..
Good luck

 

completely wrong about this. I never said the reason we broke up. I broke up with him for other reasons. Things were crazy and we didn't understand each other and I was seriously considering whether or not I wanted to be with him. So I broke up with him because I didn't know what to do. He begged to have me back for two months after that until he decided he needed some space from me, also, and went to live with his Grandma in a town about half an hour from here and it was there that he got back in touch with a girl he almost went out with before he met me.

He doesn't ever use condoms. And at the time he slept with her he really thought that I didn't want to have anything to do with him and so I can see where he wouldn't be thinking about my health at all. I hadn't even been having sex with him for the last two months we were together. And I told him that I was completely uninterested in it, which was true. And he was willing to not have sex with me anymore and be ok with it because he loved me that much. So my sexual health hadn't been a part of our lives in a long time... His, now that's his business.

duh about this part. He surely doesn't want to sign paperwork to a baby he doesn't know for sure is his! Come on, now.

I know to be careful, everyone. But the thing is, he and I are very down-to-earth people. We don't take part in drama. We know what it is when we see it and just ignore it. This is about facts, not about her feelings. If the child doesn't belong to him, then he has nothing more to do with her. She knows this. She moved away to another state almost the next DAY after he told her he didn't want anything serious with her. There's no way she could just "talk" him into signing PATERNITY papers! hell, I can't even talk him into doing anything! he does exactly what he wants and nothing less.

 

the last thing I heard from her is that she is two months pregnant, so that means the baby isn't Axyn's! it's just not possible. so yaya!

 

Yes, it is possible and you know how.

1)Do you really believe that his is willing to have no sex with his wife? For the rest of his life? Even if he loves you and thinks he's OK with it, this will be an issue

2) A husband's sexual health is exactly the same as his wife's sexual health. A blood test (for him) is indicated before you get her disease via him.

3)The two of you abstaining before your (temp) break-up suggest that it may indeed be his kid.

If she persists in claiming that the kid is your fiancee's, remember that a blood test is more reliable than trusting their memories about when they did various things.