Question for the ladies but everyone welcome.

My wife and i had recently discussed a 3sum. It would be us and anohter woman..I am the one who brought it up to her. A long time ago before she met me she had a experience with a girl. Since then she has never been with a girl since...But i am in iraq now and have been for a while so we have been away from each other. She did agree to have a 3sum with me when i get back from iraq. So like when she agreed to it i would start talking to her about a girl with us during phone sex and she would get really turned on by it....and she was telling me things she wants to do to the girl also. Well after all this i have realized that a 3sum is not what i want and def not ready for it. I am so in love with my wife i dont think i want to see here with someone else right now, but maybe thats just cause im in iraq and havnt seen her in so long. So i let her know i wasnt feeling good about her geting so turned on by this....So we talked about it and we agreed we wouldnt do it. Untill we are ready for it, basically whatever i want she pretty much agrees with it. But my wife said its like a switch for her that she can turn on and off as far as being turned on by a woman or not being turned on by a woman. Does anyone understand this? Im basically worried that she really wants a woman now and she wants to try a woman.... My question is has any women ever heard of this "switch" my wife says she has......And also do you guys feel i have anything to worry about based on what ive told you. And im in iraq so my responses on here might be kind of slow. Thanks...I just want the best for my wife and I love her so much, it all just kind of worries me.

 

Chances are when it came time for a threesome your wife would have changed her mind. In reality many men and woman talk about threesomes because it is a wonderful fantasy not something they actually want to do. For example: sometimes I imagine someone at our (husband and I) window watching...but in reality if someone was I'd be less than thrilled. Same type of thing. Turns me on to think about it, but doesn't mean I want a perv staring at us.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. If you have been gone a while I am sure when you get home your wife will be more interested in you in her bed than anyone else. The "upside" to being away from home is the fun you will have reaquainting yourselves with each others bodies

Next time you have phone sex with your wife tell her (in detail) all the wonderful things you are going to do to her, and how much it will turn you on to do them. Trust me....that will keep her motor running

Best of luck to you!

 

i agree with the above statement, as a couple you 2 really need to agree on a 3 some, and from what you told me, i dont think you have anything to worry about when you get home.
I am bi myself, and have been with another girl, and let me tell you
I would never trade in a guy over a girl, anyday!
I would make a terrible , total lesbien, it just wouldnt work..lol
I dont think you have anything to worry about...

 

thanks alot for ur responses, I also agree with you guys as well, its just that im away from her so long my horomones and emotions are going crazy. I know we are so much in love and nohting can come between it. I just wasnt really ready for that, and im glad i spoke up about it. But yeah it is fun to think and talk about it but to do it is different. It's funny because my wife said the same thing that you said about its fun to talk about it but she doenst think shes wants it trully. Thanks again ladies. Oh yeah, and that is a pretty kool fantasy yo have there.

 

You do of course realize that you scored some mega points with your wife by telling her that while a threesome sounded fun you wanted her and only her (pretty great ego boost!). You have also opened the door for some mutual fantasy sharing. Meaning you can talk up a threesome and all the fun you'll have and neither will feel the pressure. Hey, it can get pretty wild if ya aren't worried about proving yourself, if you know what I mean.

You could write her a nice erotic letter that she can read whenever the mood strikes...unless of course you already do that...in which case "Bravo!!!" Hell, I don't tend to have threesome fantasies and it got my mind working

 

You sound like you have a great bond with your Mrs, that you can talk about anything with her, I think that's most important of all. My husband has a nice way of putting things - he wants a threesome, but only if two of the people were me. Which leaves things well and truly in the fantasy world, and helps me to understand his desires.

As for the 'switch' your wife has, it sounds like you are the one and only thing she is truly interested in, and other things could come and go and still stay insignificant to the love and passion that the two of you share, if that makes sense? Like ice cream - you can have it with sprinkles, but if the ice cream isn't there the sprinkles are just boring. (You're the ice cream, by the way!)

 

ok kool, im feeling a little better about this now, the ice cream thing helped me out...lol...thanks..Yeah If it's one thing that we do have going for us its our sex life and our communication, Because we can and do talk to each other about anything and everything. Yeah i love writing graphic erotic things and my wife loves to hear them, It gets her pretty wet i think.

 

I feel like I understand what your wife is saying. We all have fantasies and like to talk about them at times..but actually doing it is another story. True, maybe she would go through with it..but if not...it really isn't a big deal because she loves you. Honestly, women (not to generalize people) care more about the "real deal" than any fantasy. She may be turned on by women-but that doesn't mean that she isn't more turned on by the thought of you. Most women fantasize about other women...although some wouldn't go through with it. Some only do it for their man. Because you guys have been apart..I agree that you should probably spend some time together b4 you jump into bed with another person. Basically just be confident and secure in her love for you.

 

thanks a lot everyone