Bi, gay or what?!

I don't know what to do. I'm 17 and in a senior in highschool.. Every day I find myself at my classes brooding and zoning out thinking about my life, what or who I am. I'm a virgin all around, but I appreciate/fantasize about both the male and females. Around the campus, I can get aroused at a girls ass or a guys, too. I've only dated twice, and there never was really a connection, so they never lasted longer then 3 weeks or so.

I don't know what I'm asking for here.... I realize I cant just ask someone "Am I gay or bi?".. I've gotta figure it out myself I guess, but I need advice. Just how am I supposed to go about it? I need to discover myself, both sexually and emotionally with both genders I suppose, before I can figure it all out and maybe even come out.

Help? x_x

 

well, theres a chance you are gay, bi, or maybe you're flat out hetero.

try experimenting with men and women. if you like only the men, you're gay. only women, you're straight. will you like both? then you're, obviously, bi.

you just need to expirament. maybe, even if you fantisize about guys and think they are hott, and you hook up with another dude, you don't like it. you just need to expirament to find out for sure.

 

By description, you sound pretty bi to me...
Don't take my word for it though. I had trouble figuring it out for myself cause some times I thought I couldn't be aroused by females, and other times I felt 50-50. If you really don't know, just go with the flow, I'd say. Flirt with guys, flirt with girls, find out what satisfies you more. Just be patient and it should present itsself to you in time

bisexuality, though, has a wide definition if I know correctly. Cause, even though one may prefer men, he may also have vague physical feeling towards women as well. That's why it's often hard to choose between gay or straight. If it were me and I had trouble deciding, I'd just call myself bi.

 

Well there is no reason to label yourself, it's not a necessity. and if you want a label, only you can do that once you've figured out for sure.

From what you said though, you mentioned that you've been sexually attractive to both sexes. But that doesn't make you gay/bi. Also could you see yourself being in a relationship with a man or a woman or both? i asked myself that question, and took a while to actually think deeply about it and pin-point my desires. Either way, only time can tell, like the others said, you can try experimenting (but only if you're willing), or asking questions about either sex. Good luck figuring youself out