But I thought he was gay..

I have a lot of guy friends that i hang out with every now and then. Theyre all really cool and one of them is gay. well thats what he says, that's what all his friends say, thats what his myspace says for shits sake. Gay. Not bi.
but the other night when we were all hanging out and it was pretty much the same old shit. chilling, talking, drinking. The both of us ended up alone somehow. but it was cool, just like hanging out with a friend. Even when he was on top of me giving me a massage, i thought nothing of it. except that it was a really, really good massage. then out of nowhere he went in to kiss me. i got scared and turned away. kinda like when the same sex tries to kiss you and youre straight ...kind of
i even told him that i thought he was gay. and he said 'well... not completely'

and the night goes on, more shit happens, but nothing big or worth telling i guess. i just dont want to put down a lot. i didnt do anything. and it wasnt because he was 'bi' or below my standard, i had my own reasons for not doing anything. as much as he tried pushing me into things.

so i wanted to know. why would he tell everyone that he's straight gay? lol i mean that he's only gay. ive never heard of any girlfriend or anything, actually we were talking about his ex bf earlier that night. do you think he's always been attracted to both guys and girls, but just hasnt brought it up. or did something just come over him that night?

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dunno, I'm bi, I thought I was gay for a little bit but no bisexuality makes me the happiest. he could be reverse in the closet like he felt urges towards other men, jump on the gay thing and when he finds himself attracted to girls he may be worried of ambarassment for going back on saying your gay. if that made any sense i hope it helps, Im all jacked up on amyl nitrate from being in a pile of hotties all night so if my spelling is messed up im sorry.

nothing cures the hppd blues like a gay orgy...

 

Thanks, I'll bear that in mind

I think it's pretty normal to be honest. I mean I consider myself gay, even though I am occasionally (almost never) attracted to guys. Being 'gay' doesn't always mean you are only attracted to the same sex, just as being 'straight' doesn't mean you're always attracted to the opposite one.

One of the most annoying things that sometimes happens to me is if I'm walking down a street or something with a friend and I see a good looking guy, and I kind of absent-mindedly mention it to my friend. They almost always look at me really suspiciously and go 'I thought you were gay?' like they're trying to prove I'm making it up or something.

I think I read a study somewhere which said only 1 in 50 people is truly gay and 1 in 50 truly straight - the rest will at least fantasize about both sexes at some point in their life. So I guess it's not that unusual.

 

Oh, and when you say you were 'drinking', do you mean 'drunk'?

 

we were drinking alcohol. but he wasn't drunk

 

come again? :stunned:

 

People are changing all the time @ least I do.That's why I try to stay away from labels cause I don't want to box myself in.Sounds like he's confused and maybe just going with that feeling he was having at the moment,could be that or something more,he maybe way more confused,can you talk to him about it,he might need a friend to listen.




*yeoj joey*

 

should have been reason enough.
what an asshole.

I knwo guys that say they are gay to get chicks, wonder if he's one of those...

 

Yeah,.that's also true ! How pushy was this dude???

 

well he kept leaning in trying to kiss me and after shooting him down like a million times he asked if we could just "cuddle, nothing sexual."
so we did. I believed him when he said nothing was going to happen, but people lie. He pretty much felt me up and tried to get his hand down my pants sometime through the night

and they always seem so genuine and nice...
well I know those 'assholes' are good people. maybe just not to me :[



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people aren't good.

people aren't by default, anything but good even and it requires lots of discipline and/or consideration to become generally morally good
someone that keeps pushing you to submit to their will, not caring for your own, obviously has neither of those traits down very well

 

Yea S.Toasty I did'nt realize it was like that damn! This guy sounds really f**ked up,that's soo wrong!!,I'd stay far away from this guy,you never know what people are gonna do.This dude diffenetely sounds like Duck said,obviously could'nt give a sh*t about you or your feelings at all,whether he says he's gay or not that does'nt automatically make him a safe person to deal with without him comin' on to you or worse,
Can I punch him in the face? lol
I just hate to see stuff like that,sorry.
People who are real assholes are not good people!

Sorry you had to go through that and hope you're feelin' alright.
*Joey