Erection Help? Please Help Its Getting Me Down :(

hello im only 18 years old and i'm having erection problems!, im very very disappointed and its getting me down, it all started on holiday when i pulled this girl and we went back to her room and we tried to have sex but i cudnt get an erexction at all, i thought this could have been the drink as id had about 8 pints that night, i was still a virgin at the time an also could have put this down to nerves, but around 3 year ago i met the girl of my dreams on the internet an we texted for 3 year n after my holiday this year i finally got the courage to go down and see her, everything was ok and my erections were fine but not 100% strong, and the second time i went to see her which was a few days ago i couldnt really get an erection, we were alone upstairs and we got carried away and she sliped me inside her and i wasnt too hard to start with but about 30 seconds into it i went floppy, when we kissed and cuddled i got pretty hard but as soon as we started oral sex or anything like that i just went floppy, i thought this could have been nerves again as her mam and brother were downstairs but i wasnt to sure, when we done this i didnt wear a condom but didnt 'come' inside her but i know it can leak from the penis during sex and ive been worried ever since that she could be pregnant even though we only had sex for a minute, anyway we had a full day to ourselves and we were upstairs and i got a semi erection and then about a 75% erection so my girlfriend slipped my penis inside her and we had sex but again only for about 30 seconds before i become floppy again, i think it could be because of me worrying about her bein pregnant or because it was my first time having sex, as i said im only 18 should i be having these problems? my girlfriend and i joked abot this and she said it was ok and we'll work around it . . . maybe use viagra but i dont wana be using this as i feel a failure, i relaxed while 'trying' to have sex but nothing happend and it made me upset to know that i couldnt get erect, but when we kiss touch and cuddle i get semi erect but as soon as we play with eachother i get floppy, its really confusing as i tried to relax and i feel comfortable doing stuff with my girlfriend, can you try and help me please as i'm pretty upset thanksyou

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could you help me and tell meif you think my girlfriend could be pregnant?
she came off the pill about 3 weeks ago and hasn't come on her period yet, we had sex (or tried to on 2 occasions as mentioned above) on thursday and friday morning, i didnt 'come' inside her but i know she could still be pregnant and im really worried that she could be, i live in sunderland and she lives in leeds so it isnt that easy to see her all of the time, i asked if she would take a pregnancy test but she darent go in the chemist as her mams close friend owns it and its only a small village she lives in so everyone knows everyone if you get me? and she dont want her mam to find out, she said shed take the morning after pill but its too late now . . . she told me that it can take around 3 month to get back in the cycle of your periods after coming off the pill but im so worried that she could be pregnant, shes the girl of my dreams and she so happy with me too and i dont want to riun what we have at this age as im 18 and shes 15, shes told me she doesnt feel pregnant but she hasnt been pregnant before so i dont think she can be too sure . . .
im so worried please can you help me my heads in bits

any help please because i realy duno what to do thanks

 

it could be that you're thinking about it 2 hard. if you have worries about staying hard during sex, it can have a negative affect on you.

 

yeah thats hit the nail on the haed mate, i just cant believe im actualy doing it . . . its weird but when i take my mind off it my mind just goes blank and i lose my erection

i really dunno how to get around this

any help will be very much appreciated thanks

 

Have you tried Viagra? If that doesn't work then go to sex clinic. I'm having a similar problem with my new girlfriend now. I have a rock hard erection when it comes to sex but just as I'm about to penetrate her it loses it. The erection doesn't go FULLY but it's enough for it not to be able to penetrate. Her pussy is just so tight, sometimes I think "how am I gonna get this in there???!"

Everyone experiences erection problems at some part of their lives...

 

yeah well it was my first time and on the first time i went to see her she could make me hard, then i went to see her the other day and i could get hard until she slipt me inside her then i just beacme semi hard, then i was worrying about her being pregnant which could be it? then the next day we were having sex, i was hard but afta 30 seconds i lost my erection somehow, then we tried oral and lots of other things but it wouldnt work, iplayed with myself while she did and i become hard then when i stopped i become floppy straight away . . . i dunno what my problem is, and ive ordered some 'erection cream' to see if that works but who knows?

 

I'd have gone with viagra, I've heard alot of good reviews about it. I've got sexual performance anxiety with this girl. I can receive blow jobs, I get handjobs from her. I can get hard NO PROBLEM up until I'm about to penetrate her pussy. That's when I lose it.

 

hmm ye i might try that, after we tried to have sex even handjobs/blowjobs wernt working . . .i dunno what was up and you can imagine i felt upset in a way and pretty stupid, the thing that puts me off about viagra is you have to take it 1 hour/half hour before and then later you will get an erection, id like something instant? and can you get viagra that lasts for an hour or round about an hour as my girlfriend lives with her mam still and i dont wana be going downstairs after sex still horny with an erection lol

 

Don't go downstairs naked then lol. Viagra lasts for 4 hours. You could take it about half an hr before you feel you're going to have sex and then make sure you have it within 4 hrs. Just tell the girl you're suffering from sexual performance anxiety. She shouldn't care if you're taking viagra. My girlfriend told me to take it. I've ordered mine and she's waiting patiently.

 

lol i wear clothes when i go downstairs lol just would feel weird incase her mam seen it haha my girlfriend may have a problem where she cant have kids and i told her i understood that and id stick by her whatever hapend and now that its me with the problem she said it dont matter if we have sex or not cos at the end of the day shes still got me, which is reasuring, she told me wel have to try viagra so ye al give it a go and see if itl help to get rid of nerves, and we shave to sleep in separate beds at the moment cos her mam has only met me twice, so my girlfriend comes up am lies in bed with me on mornings and after sex i dont wana be getting up with an erection for my breakfast lol!

 

Liam - you are just starting out on your sexual adventures, and you clearly had "performance anxiety", a common problem for young guys in your situation. You are not completely sure of what you are doing, and you are worried that it won't go well, and guess what? It doesn't.

You really screw with your brain and not your penis, which is just the delivery system, and erections are caused by the chemical nitrous oxide being flashed from your brain to the capillaries in the two corpus cavernosa sacks in the shaft of your penis, which open up for blood to rush in. If other thoughts intrude on your brain function, such as "Oh, I hope I can stay hard", you go soft.

It also did not help that you were probably drunk when you tried to have sex. Alcohol is a depressant, and does not help sexual performance except in moderation, when it can loosen inhibitions. So lay off the booze next time.

You are too young for viagra, which is available only by medical prescription, so concentrate on just relaxing and enjoying what is life's most intimate and pleasurable experience - sex.

 

Viagra is available on www.onlineclinic.co.uk after a medical consultation with a doctor online.

Cutted can I ask you something? You seem to know alot on these subjects. Are you a sex therapist or owt? If so can I have a private word?

 

i was drunk the first time but the 2 other times i was fine as ive stopped drinkin mate to see iff it will help

 

i went on that site and the viagras are a rip off mate, its £18.74 per pill!

 

That's how much viagra costs on the market. Either that you could go to your doctor and tell him your problems and if he thinks it's ok you'll be able to get viagra for free on prescription.

I myself would be considered too young for viagra.

 

i think im too young as im only 18 but i realy dont know what else to do?

 

I'm not much older than you and I've taken a generic brand of viagra before so I don't see what the problem would be. My mates have taken viagra. It will definately help erectile dysfunction but if you think you can do without viagra then do so or even visit a sex clinic but a 1hr session would be more expensive than viagra at about £30 an hr. Upto you what you wanna do 1st but no matter what there's a cure. If everything fails then the sex clinic won't. 93% of people are cured after visiting the sex clinic but alot are too embarassed to go, such as meeeeeeeeee....

 

id feel a bit embarrassed but if itl help out then why not? where is this clinic mate?
www.drugstorestation.com

viagras much cheaper on there mate

 

Well basically you first visit your doctor and if he feels you should visit a clinic then he'll arrange it for you and tell you where to go.


Cheers but that's an American site.

 

yeah i've ordered some viagra soft tablets because the proplem with the tablets is you dont really plan sex so how do you know weather to take them an hour before cos you might not have sex? or if you get carried away then want sex youl have to wait an hour for an erection . . . im gona try viagra a few times then try it without an see if im ok, i feel so comfortable with her though . . . so i dont see why i lose my erection?

 

Liam - viagra, levitra and cialis work differently for different guys. What they do is mimic the nitrous oxide flashed from your brain to your penis to open the capillaries in the corpus cavernosa sacks in the shaft to create an erection, once you start to get aroused. It also can retard orgasm in some guys. The "four hours" mentioned refers to the warning that if you get an erection which lasts for more than four hours which won't go down, see a doctor immediately. It can damage your penis.

You don't get a four hour erection with viagra, etc. Once you are slightly aroused, the medicine kicks in and you get a good hard erection. Once you are finished, the erection goes down. You can usually call it up again when you want to, for up to 36 hours for cialis, and six hours or more for viagra.

These drugs are for persons over 40 with some history of erectile disfunction, due to health problems, age, etc. It is not really for someone in his 20s or younger, and it is expensive. But it does give a guy a lot of confidence in his "virility", and it should make no difference to the female how the erection is achieved. And for guys with premature ejaculation problems, it helps retard orgasm for many.