Coming out is harder than it seems for me

Ok, I've pretty much decided that I'm attracted to dudes and NOT girls. If you didn't know me you'd never think I'm gay or if you know me and knew the way I act towards girls(Like if a pack of sexy women walk pass I might look over but them I'd go back to what I was doing but all the other dude would be still saying damn) a few people have gotten clues from that but only people who have known me for a long time. Bottom line, I'm not sexually attracted to women but I am towards men. Now my family is also suspect too because I don't make an effort to get with girls of course but I tell them that I'm straight and they believe me but I'm too old in my teen years(16) to be lying about my sexuality. I just want to come out without making a big scene or anything because word of mouth goes around fast. I want to come out but I just don't know the best way guys. Any tips?

 

The first thing you need to do is come out to yourself. I know that sounds silly but it's true and a lot of people need to do that. What that means is you really need to know yourself. Be absolutely sure you are gay or you feel the way you do and make sure you accept it. And you're comfortable and proud to be who you are.

Once you have done that then it's time to work on coming out to others. There is no easy way to do it. Remember you have time. You don't have to do it now and you don't have to do it ever if you don't want to. Or you can make it a process. Tell someone you trust first and go from there.

It took me until I was 23 to come out and I had my first same sex experience when I was 13. It took me time to make sure and accept it myself. I thought it would be harder than it really is. I have had some people who were fine with it and some people who didn't accept it (my parents). But even my parents have come around now. It can still be hard for me to come out to people. But remember as a gay person this is something you will have to face for life. With new friends, at school, in the work place, etc.

Good luck.