I dont think ill ever find "the one"...

yes yes, i know im only 16.
but all my friends have been spending almost 2 years trying to find a guy that would make me happy but i just dont think it will ever happen. guys dont seem to like me and if they do, i dont seem to like them.
im not for the whole "teenage love" thing. i think you find that one person and spend the rest of your lives with eachother. mabye im being silly.
but still.... ive just given up.
anyone else wanna join the club??

p.s i dont acually think theres anything worng with me. hahaha

 

dont give up darlin. I know how you feel, sometimes i feel like i will never find love. It is hard to find someone who is for real, But i know i will someday find a girl that is totally tubular, gnarly, radical. It just takes a little time for both sexes, men and women to wisen up and realize that love is our purpose. Guys your age are young as well and it takes a few years of their adulthood to wake up. Just be patient patience is a great virtue to have. You are a VERY good looking girl so im sure guys will be interested in you soon. Just keep smilin And your right, there probably isnt anything wrong with you. It is the guys who are fools not to be with a cool girl who will love them...

 

There's something to be said for giving up. Hell, I have more money than my friends, more free time, more freedom to do what I want, and at the end of the day I just jerk it.

It's not for the faint of heart though. If one's prone to loneliness, then it's a depressing path.

 

wow

 

Im with ya but I am just letting love & the one come to me. Hell, at least without someone I can do as I please with no witching. Think about that one.

 

Dont worry - youre not the only one cos i know hundreds of girls like that jus relax...

I know jacobfredjo was trying to help but for me that really didn't!! I'm not pretty so what?

 

you are still very young when you least expect it the lovebug will bite you... so don't give up i know how you are feelin went throu same thing when i was a teenager....... you know your statement about finding one person falling in love forever makes good sense to me and it your life so be as picky as you want to be

 

its a horrible feeling

i've always been very shy around women, and as a result had one real gf who it turned out wasn't even remotely in love with me, just using me, and a very short term one recently who again after she got what she wanted, didn't want to know me again.

fortunatley i have some fantastic friends, and they tell me (both male and female) that i'm a great person etc etc, but what when you simply dont believe it?

unfortunatley for me, i'm the type of guy that really needs someone, and not having anyone makes me withdrawn and depressed. Worse still, the general consensus is that women prefer confident outgoing guys, so the more i'm alone, the worse it gets, and the less likely it becomes that i will find someone.. its a vicious circle, but one that hard, or near impossible to break.

i fully understand that sometimes it hits out of the blue, my best friend was in a very similar boat to me, and out of the blue recently he bumped into someone, and both fell for eachother right away, they are so happy its unreal, totaly into eachother, so it can happen, but i'm 29 now, and satarting to ask... WHEN?

 

i know what you mean,I don't feel whole without someone to share my life with. But I have a horrible choice in men, I always want outgoing bad boys. I've learned the hard way. I've been hurt and lost so many things. I've been by myself almost three yrs. It's so lonely, but I know there is love out there somewhere. I 'm done searching for it, I'm waiting for it to find me.

 

Dude I'm in your same boat...

But I think I've learned not to worry about it now, and just to meet nice girls and hopefully one of them will be right for me. If not, I can only learn from them and experince stuff with them as much as I can, as life is but a moving journey...

Exactly, if you stop searching for it, it will come. I know it sounds cliche, but I believe it's true...

 

Sweetie. You remind me alot of me when I was your age. I'm not going to tell you it will get better or that you will find someone soon, but what I will tell you is this. Have fun. Enjoy your teen years. I was the same way. When I was 16 all I wanted to do was find the "one", settle down, get married, and have a family. Well I am 28 years old and I have just now found the "One" for me. It took me 12 years, 8 different boyfriends, one ex-husband, two kids, an abusive relationship, and many poor decisions to get to where I am at this moment. But I will tell you this. I would do it all over again to have the same end result. A lot of trial and error is my best advice to you. You may very well know what you want in a man, I did when I was 15 years old. I actually had a dream of my soul mate. The man I was always meant to be with is now my fiance and we are getting married this coming saturday. Don't give up, you are a very pretty young woman, and i'm sure you will grow up to be a beautiful woman. Have faith that Your True Love is actually out there. Don't give up on that. Until then, have fun.

 

Dont give up on it. I was just like you but then i finally changed some things about myself and ended up finding the perfect guy. Just give it time. I didnt find mine till 4 months ago. Theres someone for everyone and you might not find him right away but when you meet the right guy, you'll know because you'll have a connection right away once yousee them and talk to them. But goodluck, i hope everything goes good for you.

 

Why should looks matter?! Surely you want a guy that'll be with you for your mind...

 

I think when your younger "looks" matter. Later though you realize that it's the personality that really really matters. IlUvMuSIc said it perfectly. I thought for a long time that I wouldn't find someone, not precisely the one, but anyways one day out of no where I met her, of course it was short lived and now she went back to England, turned out she was here for a little while. Anyways just keep living life each day and something is bound to happen, most likely when you least expect it!

 

Im going through the same thing, only coming out the other end. I thought I was in love, twice. And the only thing I got out of it was a child out of marriage and a divorce. Trust me, you are better off in the end. Lonlieness is the only sure cure for vanity, when the vanity is gone, you will find love. Like no other.

Im still working on that it seems, but I know. I know it as truly as I know to wake up every morning.

 

i think you said it best...your only 16!!!! You have ALOT of life to live and in that you will find sumthin. Im in my mid 20s and ive been in love once! And I let her go because of family...BIG MISTAKE! But you'll find it!