women are so mean to eachother

KC, you and I have disagreed before, but mostly agree. It never changed my opinion of you. (not that I really form opinions of people on here, I don't think about anyone here really, just respond to threads mostly). I know that I am defensive, don't deny it. But I must admit that I have thought of you as defensive sometimes as well on posts. Maybe I misunderstood what you were clarifying or why. Sorry bout that. I just rather people not get all bent out of shape over these boards; its so not worth it, ya know.

 

well, everything was cool until you tried to put yourself above me by calling me defensive when i wasn't at all, then tried to laugh it off. i found that dishonest and rude.

 

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Women are definitely way worse to each other. Its horrible. A lot of women dislike any girl before even speaking to her. I suppose its insecurity or feeling threatened or something. They will find something to dislike about them just to be better than them. (But really studies show it just makes them feel worse about themselves) They're always saying other girls are fat or ugly or whatever. Not all girls are like that but a lot of them are. Most girls hate girls that are pretty but I enjoy seeing a pretty girl. They might think "I wish I had her legs" or whatever but I just think wow she has nice legs. Or something.. ya know? But I'm not an insecure jealous person. It sucks girls are like that, I'm sure they do it to me too. And they talk shit about every girl. If you're not a girl I guess you wouldn't understand the relationships of women...

 

nver mind

 

my five year old, in her second week of kindergarten, has already been singled out for some of this bullshit. can you believe that?! older girls, as in first through 3rd graders, made a point of whispering about her behind her back. all i could do was say in my meanest mom voice "i can HEAR you." then look right at them. i have to teach my daughter never to back down to bullying and meaness, at the same time i have to teach her how not to get caught in the nastiness that can arise when you feel the need for a 'GROUP.' to get your back. because i'm not always going to be there. my first inclination was to teach kai to smack them right across their vicious mouths. it only takes one time.

 

I could not agree more.. happened to me over and over

and my parents

and it happens to the best of us

LOTS of shitty people out there

very low

and true it isn't necessarily a woman thing, although, so far, I have to admit I've been the most torn by women, men, in MY experience, aren't so cruel, or of they are, it by woman advice, but that's in MY experience and I don't wanna generalize

I love women, but I hate assholes

 

women are just better at hitting the deep psychology of another person. most men just don't bother.

 

ok i will say this again. she doesn't have self esteem issuses. in fact she is clinicaly a sociopath.i should have said that to beging with.sorry.

i dont react the her. well, not around her anyways. she doesnt really know the extent of my issues with her and i mean to keep it that way.i have confronted her before,she cried a lot then went off to pull the same shit later on that week.i do understand it...all of it. this has been going on for 5 years you honestly believe i havent covered all of this a million times? see its when the commen sense fails that i result to asking for advise.

i completely agree.

i can control my behavior just fine. my thoughts however, i have little control over.im not going to kill her, but i can think about it all i want to. whether my thoughts are crazy or childish,doesnt matter because i am a responsible adult and i know better than to act on things like this.i never said i was not responsible for my actions.

i never said anything about you. not a damn thing. i wouldn't dare judge a person i have never met or known. the only assuming going on here is you assuming that i am merely trying to throw a pitty party or just gain an agreeable audience.which was never my intentions.i did however say that i didnt think you understood the situation. which was not a shot at you, i was trying to say that maybe i didnt explain well enough.and while i do appreciate your respose and thought on the subject,i wanted advice and opinions not an arguement.

there was nothing that i wanted to hear necessarily,and a sugar coating was not something i ask for. whether you think you have been in a situation "EXACTLY" like mine is irrelevant because you are not me,they were not her, and this is not your life. therefor garentee you it was not exactly the same...at all.that is not to say,however, that i think that no one has ever been through this(including yourself),but no one goes through exactly the same thing because everyone is different. i do not think that i have reacted poorly at all considering i really haven't reacted.

I posed this to bitch,yes, but i also hoped that someone could help me cope with this MENTALY. i know how to deal with it on the outside. thats not the problem. if i didn't,she probably would be eating from a tube for the rest of her life and i would be in jail. i have no bad thoughts tward you at all. i just sort of get the feeling that you think i am a lot more "young and dumb" than i really am. your replies have a very condescending tone to them and it would probably benifit you to turn down the sass level a bit when you are talking to females on a womens issue fourm to give advice.it makes you sound harsh and pushy. not to say that you really are, but you make yourself sound that way.i understand you dont coddle people, and i agree with that. no one needs to be lied to in that manner.just know that i do apprciate your honesty and some of the things you have said, i truely agree with.i hope you dont think badly of me.

 

why are you still holding a grudge against her after five years? the best thing you can do is stay open minded and try to always be the bigger person, as in be nice to people who hate you or have done you wrong.

 

LOL, you are too funny. I didn't try to put myself above you and call you defensive. Nor did I try to laugh it off. I just can't help laughing at how ironic this whole thing is. But whatever you know everything.

 

whatever.

 

Sounds like you are angry with a specific friend and boyfriend who betrayed you, not so much that women are nasty to each other. Best of luck with the new year and moving on and past your failed friendships and relationships with other people.

 

My fiance works in a restaurant and he came into work early so we could have lunch together before he started. Half way through the meal this girl he works with (and has been introduced to me before) came up, didn't even look at me, and started talking bout some bullshit to him, playfully pushed him, then left. I told him that shit pisses me off, and he said "must be a woman thing" lol.

I don't know if it really is though. To me it's a respect thing, and some chicks pull this shit on purpose. I was just annoyed she didn't acknowlege me, which I think is rude, when technically we are on a date. And trust me, I've worked in restaurants before and if my male co workers, or female, had a date there, I would not approach them, and if I did I would show respect towards the "date" first and then carry on with the bullshit. It's just respect.

I don't know if that counts but it sure did get on my nerves. I wanted to tell her "talk to him when I'm gone. When I'm there he's mine!!