Confused... :(

Hey man, i just got home from a long conversation with my grampa and my uncle. They talked for along ass time man. And so they tested my beliefs and challenged my lifestyle. Now im scared whether they are right or i need some reassurance. Help please...

 

dont trust anyone over 30!!!!


haha, just kidding.

what types of things did they say?

 

What all was said?

But here's a heads-up:

People are going to be testing your beliefs til the day you die. You just gotta roll with it.

 

Yes, people are going to be testing you. But if you think about it, life is one big test for you to really get to know and understand who YOU are as a person. Yes, you gotta roll with it. I think this is all a part of the great game we call "Life". In the end, you'll come out strong about your convictions and will be really in tuned to who you really are. Just keep strong, listen to your heart and your gut (they never lie to you), and follow your instincts......I dont think you can falter.





But if you dont mind me asking, what specifically were they challenging you about?

 

yea u gotta give examples. but how great are your beleifs if u abandon them the second someone badmouths u for them

 

Do what you want and youl be free

 

I'm guessing they were drunk.

 

talk to me if u want, i knoe that beliefs are constantly challenged but whats right is right no matter what,
but theyre experiences may lead then to a different conclusion then you,
what are your beliefs & what did they say to challenge them>
come talk to me anytime

 

I assume that since you said that "they" talked a long time, they were trying to convince you to change your ways, perhaps talking more at you than with you. Hey, maybe they are right about you and your lifestyle, and perhaps this long-ass conversation will be a good catalyst for change. Why be scared if they are right, since you are just learning about life, and need to know all the angles and possibilities. Maybe some of their contributions are valid and you can use them, and some others don't apply at all. Maybe they think they know you, but really don't have a clue. I guess you have something to think about.

You will most likely always be changing and growing, and are not a finished product as you are right now, so just listen to everyone and use what seems to work for you. It feels radical to get knocked off your center or feel that someone has burst your reality bubble, but just have an open mind, and try not to take others opinions of you too seriously. You have to live with yourself, so you be the ultimate judge of how you want to think and how you want to live. Good luck!

 

^ Well said.

If it is what my grandparents would talk to me about, it sounds like they just want what's best for you and are worried you're moving off the beaten track. Remember to always value input from those who love you, but to always do what you think is right. In the end, you're the only person you have to please.

Good luck and much love sister!

 

Well, the thing is that they dont like the fact that i am barefoot all the time and i smoke alot and act differently than they do. My beliefs were that my grampa's business is chopping down trees and raping the forest to make more "big companies" that will no doubt take more and more of our forest till there's no more. And they mocked me for saying that when i graduate from school, im moving to a commune in Bend, Oregon. They just laughed at the thought of it. And now my dad doesn't like me anymore cause im a druggie. But i said that's the dumbest thing ive heard from someone, especially you. It seems to me that they mock my way of thinking and life. But they can laugh all they want. Cause when that times comes when i leave and i return someday. They'll only see a smile on my face!

 

^ Adults always ruin EVERYTHING dammit!!!
They NEVER listen!! You to explain shit to them, tell them to stop saying shit about you, and it goes in one ear and out the other!!!

But don't worry. Everyone here has given good advice.


CHEER UP DUDE!!!
:hug:

 

Hey thanks man, im feelin better already! most adults are just assholes and try to make you into a corporate slave the day your born. But luckily for me, i discovered the true path for myself a long time ago. I believe in the spirits, the earth, and all its creatures. And if my family can't accept me, then they can live without me.

 

Your beliefs will grow, and change. You will grow and change. But dont ever let other peoples doubts change the way you see yourself. Be strong, be true, and be real.

 

^ Very true sister. :hug:

 

It may be really frustrating at first but it's good that you get think about yourself. If you manage to stand by your ideals by providing counter-arguments to their talking, then it's the proof that your ideals are worth beleiving.

Of course, if it's only hate talk, like «I'm right!», «Nah, I'm right», it's not worth it.

The important thing is you learn from every situation you live.

 

Just chill out dude, surround yourself with the people you love and the people that love you, that makes for an easier life.

 

If they told you not to smoke cigarettes, you should listen to them and quit. I ignored my elders in regards to smoking and that is one of the only decisions that I actually regret. And it might have been a better idea to wait to do drugs until you are 18 and on your own. But as for your ideals and what's important to you...don't change a damn thing.

 

Yeah I get mocked by my older family members too, lots of the time it is because they have become so narrow minded through their years of unchallenged brainwashing they have been subjected to by the government, any lifestyle other than the ones deemed "normal" or "acceptable" by the system is laughable to them, but the truth is you should be laughing, its like the people that used to laugh when someone said the Earth was round, because they are ignorant, but the majority is ignorant too so stupidity passes as common sense.

 

Man, I get this kinda stuff all the time. From everyone. Family...friends....friends parents. And a lot of the time it really makes me think and question myself and question who I am. And sometimes it makes me want to change, but these feelings always go away so I guess I'm staying true to myself.