ok. im 17 and this guy that ive known since i was 5, is 33.since late feb, early march we've been mucking around and having sex every week or two or whenever its possible... it's like we're together but we're not. it feels like a real relationship. we fuck, talk every single day, go out 4 dinner. the usual. but its not officially been said. from the beginnin we both agreed we didnt want it going any further. but the last few weeks, ive been wanting him more and think i may b falling for him.i told him this and he said that he likes things way too much to change them. i thought that perhaps all i was to him was a booty call perhaps, even though i know he cares for me as a best friend (if that makes sense). this was all about a week or 2 ago. but on the weekend, i was hanging with this guy and we hooked up and stuff and a gfriend of mine said somethin to me and he called me and asked me about it and admitted that he was really jealous. but then stated that he's just a non-commital person which is prob y he is still single etc... he also said that he felt bad cos he'd been holding out on me for a couple of weeks in the bedroom department.. when he said that he still doesnt want anything more than friends with benefits, it didnt worry me... im really confused cos it comes across like he loves me and treats me like a queen but then says that he doesnt want to be with me... he knows how i feel and now i just dont know what to do... any help please???
Ummm maybe its because of the age difference. To me thats kindof gross but if thats what you like then thats cool im not going to judge you or anything but if you guys had a reltaionship it would be a lil hard since your 17 and hes 33. If i were you i wouldnt worry. Go out and find someone your age or maybe a few years older but not 16 years older. Your still young. Go out and have fun and enjoy life while you still can.
I can wrap it up for you: He likes to have sex with you but doesn't want to be with you. Thus why he is nice but still not acting all that interested. Why would you want to be with someone who has nothing better to do at 33 then mess around with a teenager. He was 21 when you were 5, you don't find that odd?
Yeah, even though I really didn't want to go there.... I say I have to agree with the above. I think I just felt as if you might not take that kind of thing well. And to add to that... he's only jealous because he knows if you take interest in someone else, you'll drop him. He's in a sticky situation whether you see that or not. If he doesn't give you what you want, he runs the risk of you telling someone about the two of you to be vindictive, but he doesn't want to give you what you want, only make you think he's going to to keep you around. If he held out on sex for two weeks, he's probably got another girl on the side. Maybe she's 18, and he's trying to phase you out.
i finally got the guts to talk to hima bout it last night. he said that he loves me and wants to be with me, but doesnt want to be the guy to tie me down at say, 19 or whatever.... giirrr
If a 33 year old man was sleeping with my daughter when she is 17 I would have his balls on a platter! A 33 year old "man" does not sleep with a 17 year old because he thinks she is relationship material. A 33 year old man sleeps with a 17 year old to fulfill his own fantasy. Your parents must be really understanding because if my son or daughter told me "yeah, i'm 17 and they are 33" it would take the National Guard to keep me from killing/seriousy maiming the other person.
