Older men...

Okay, heres the sitch. I started a new job recently, and one of the first ppl i had one on one time with is this guy who i'll call M.

M. and i were in a vehicle 90% of the time,for 2 days.. so of course there was plenty of conversation.. We hit it off - hes real easy to talk to, the kinda guy that its almost impossible to not get along with.. and somewhat of a ladies man- things got a little flirty at times..

I thought he was cute and funny, and all but at first I didn't think anything of it.. Then like, 3 weeks/ a month later BAM I can't stop thinkin about him.

Heres the thing: he's old enough to be my dad - the same age as my dad, in fact.. yeah. (im 23)

And honestly, the age factor doesn't bother me- i don't feel that it should be an issue.. if both parties are of legal age, then if you like a person, who cares..

if it comes down to me sleeping with him, that's not an issue. i'd totally do it.
but i'm worried about what if something does happen, and it actually goes somewhere -
(btw, im not worried about the fact that we work together - we work in different areas and different shifts, and there's not really an inter-office dating policy, you just can't married or one of u has to find a new job)

Any other gals that have been here, dating a much older man how did you tell ur parents- if u told them at all.. how awkward was it, that sort of thing

and do relationships like this have a chance of making it at all, or should i just elect now to keep him in the fuck buddy category..

And also, i've been told that the older they get, the better they are in bed.. Is that true, because i so need to get fucked properly, lol

okay, well thanks for any replies..


-S-

 

thanks

 

If humanoids have been around for hundreds and hundreds of thousands of years then I'd say if you're within --oh--say 1000 years of each other--that's close enough!I've had experiences like that where a girl or two has said"I better get away from you or I'm gonna get in trouble"It surprised me because I was just being myself and not even flirting.Maybe we old guys put something out there without even realising it.You might want to set some parameters before you do tho.

 

lmao...


I appreciate the replies guys.. for reals..

I'm not even sure if this cat likes me like that though.. Im pretty sure he does, but to be blunt, im second guessing my womens intuition here (as usual)

I mean, he's got two daughters that are older than me, so he might not see me like that at all.. but maybe you can help me

What can I do to find out how he feels about this with out just being blunt - unless thats the best way to go

see, i have a hard time playing those little games and being subtle but where this is concerned, Im not sure i wanna take the straightforward route..

because i do work with him, and i just started the job and it is the biggest rumor mill in the freakin world.. to be honest, i don't wanna come out looking like a damn fool.. i'd rather things be discreet..

any advice?

 

I don't think there's a thing wrong with it at all. I can't stand dating 20-something-year-old guys...great for friends,but anything more than that...no.
The only big piece of advice I have if you don't mind 'hearing' it is to put yourself in their shoes at whatever age they are. Are they where they 'should be' for their age maturity wise and responsibilkity wise?
I wish I had learned that a lot earlier in my life. I wouldn't have dated 30-something year-old potheads or 30-somethings who job hopped and weren't stable. As soon as I realized what I was doing wrong and stopped dating teenagers born 30 or 40 years ago i started having much healthier relationships with quality people.
Also, make sure you are not their 'trophy'. Nothing worse than being a trophy girlfriend and never being listened to or taken seriously. A lot of older men eho date younger girls are like that.
I am my fiancee's first girl more than a couple of years younger than him and I like that he is not a serial craddle robber and would date me even if I was his age (not that he's old or anything)

 

Im pretty sure he's where he's supposed to be for his age (46) I mean, he seems pretty responsible - he's not a deadbeat dad, right now he lives with his mother because she's getting to the point where she shouldnt live alone, but isnt so bad that she needs to be in a home... to me, that is acting his age.. And its not like he sponges off her pension or anything because, like i said, i met him at work..

and like ^ u said.. im tired of dating or trying to get involved with 30 year old teenagers.. grow the fuck up already..

 

oh wait wait - since i work with him, dont do it.. as in dont be blunt or dont fuck him?

 

Well, its highly unlikely that i'll be in a vehicle with him again - that was just a one shot deal for my training.. he's maintenance, and im an operator.. so he was showing me the things i operate and that he has to service.. we don't really associate with the maintenance guys too much, as that's how the bosses want it, for some retarded reason..

and as for fucking a co-worker, i messed around with a girl at my last job, and nothing bad came of it.. plus, i'd never do something stupid like fuck him at work.. that's stupid and dangerous, not to mention disrespectful, and our place of employment is just SO.freakin.romantic, lemme tell ya, lol..

as for people at work finding out, if it even comes down to us doing it.. that's the first "rule" i set , is that it needs to be kept on a need to know basis and that no one needs to know - regardless of whether i work with the person or not.. so, if i talk to him and find out that he's got a big mouth, then it's off..

And if they did find out, well, im not ashamed of myself, so i'd be like " I really dont think that's any of your concern or that I needed to clear it with you before I decided to do something, so why don't you mind your own business."

and as for my company firing anyone over it - i doubt it. theres a female operator i work with who dated another operater for something like 3 years, a man she met at work.. and the only thing that happened was that when they finally decided to get married, one of them had to find a new job.. so dating is okay, but being married = nepotism..

you see, i've been thinking about this for while... turning over every situation i could think of..

 

look, you sound like you want to go for it. so why not just go for it, rather than waitin gon the advice of random internet people?

 

good for you then! go for it, but you gotta keep us updated. it's only fair!

HUGS

 

That was me I forgot to log him out.

 

do you ever think about the future? i mean by the time your 30, dude will be wrinkled, old and ugly, probly not even able to keep his dick up... once the sex is out the window the relationship would probly fail... just my thoughts...

 

Make the little decisions with your Head and The Big ones with your Heart.

 

try to see the shiny area on him don't look to the dark side ignore what u hate .

 

Go ahead and give him a tumble. You are still young. It is a time to explore, learn, try things and get experience. Pursue the opportunity and learn from him. You dont have to marry him or have kids with him. Some of the best most useful relationships a person can have are short term.
Enjoy learn and experience the world and to hell with the puritans.

 

As far as how do you find out if he is interrested?
Is he a man? yes
Is he breathing? yes
Then he is interrested.

The next time you guys are talking, bring up body piercing, then if he is open to discuss that, you could mention your nipple ring.
Ask if he wants to see it?

OK, that probably isn't the best route to take, but I would say to let him know that you are really curious about sex with an older man. That you are an open minded young woman...etc. Or you could try the "I have a friend who is thinking about dating a guy her dad's age....."
I know you said you are not into the head games, but it really sounds like you want to have sex with this guy. So, for now ask him if he is interrested in being a "fuck-buddie" and see where it goes from there.

Don't be silent and spend the next few years wondering what if.

 

Give it more time and see what happens.

 

Ok... well.... as you can see I'm 19.... I'm with someone right now who is my parent's age... (which the gap between us is a bit more than between you guys... considering my mom was 32 when she had me ) Age is truely nothing but a number placed upon us to let us know which rights we get to have ie. ability to vote... buy booze etc nothing more than that...

yeah... I can't help you with this seeing as I haven't told my parents yet.... BUT I have met his father as well as his brother and as awkward as you could imagine something like that being.... it wasn't half bad... my mind played it out to be far worse than what it really was

well... I don't think the age thing has anything to do with how everything works out... maurity level, yes.. unless one of you are worried about what outsiders are going to think... then it could get stressful I imagine.. but other than that ... the rate of failure is just the same as someone from any other age...

but....i've know greg for a few years now.. we've been together for a few months .... I moved to be with him and go to college here about a month and a half ago... and the great thing is it's all because of hips we met here and fell...

don't worry about age hun... if you like the man... go for it... take it as you would any other courtship you'd have w/ someone younger... dont treat it as a different situation than what it really is

mine has 3 children... older than me.... I haven't met them... but the fact that im younger than his children doesnt change anything... i wouldnt be worried

I guess what I'm trying to say is... if you like the man... go for it.... the wores he can say is that he's not interested *shrugs* I wouldn't change a thing... I'm more in love than I ever have been... well I hope this has helped.... or at least is taken as a little reassurance... follow your heart.... in the end.. your heart will never lead you wrong hope all works out for you... and make sure you keep us posted on how it all goes!!

 

Go for it if it makes you happy!

Personally, I would never date someone as old as my parents are, even if they do have the experience and skill. I just find that to be a little bit wierd, but shit, I am still just an idiot kid. I guess I am institutionalized to the fact that you should be somewhat close to each others age.

But like I said before, if this guy treats you right, and you have a jolly old time, than why not? Sex is sex, no strings attached! But if you do want to form a relationship, I would meet his family/ friends ASAP. The faster that awkwardness is out of the way, the better. Do what feels right, and if this feels right to you, make an educated decision.

 

I seriously love older men because they are sexy as hell! (excuse my language! )

I have always liked older men..never dated any, illegal..but when I turn 18 in May, You better believe that is what I"m going after!! They are so hott...the hairy chests..the masculine mature look..that is so sexy!!!

I love older men..And I really love them in speedos! lol..

I have always like older men, when I was 7, I had a crush on a 73 year old and he was my bus driver!..(disgusting, but true..)

My dad has lived with me most of my life!!

Older men are just hot!!