Alright, so I'm assuming this is the right forum to post this in, seeing as it how it deals with a relationship (friendship) I have. I've known this girl for 4 years and we have been best friends. Everyone thinks we're dating, but we never made it official and see other people. We've only fooled around a couple times and never had sex, but we spend multiple hours together every single day without fail. She is the only person I can count on for anything and trust 100%. We click more than I've ever seen two unmarried people click in my entire life. Heres the problem. We got into a small argument last night that really wasn't that big of a deal. We were on xanax at the time, but she doesn't remember it. Today she called saying some guy had made her angry and I said, "Well, you made me pretty mad last night too." She goes off on me, saying, "You don't f*cking care, leave me the f*ck alone", etc. Her friend told me she was at the park crying, so I went to see her. She refused to get out of the car and talk, giving me the middle finger, cussing at me. All for "not listening" when she called me. I told her I didn't realize how upset she was at the time. It keeps escalating and I call her several *nasty* names and storm off. She refuses to talk to me now and sent a text saying never to speak to her again. She has been my other half for YEARS now and I love her so much I'd take a bullet for her. However, she is prone to taking EVERYTHING out on me because she knows I'll forgive her. She brings so much drama in my life. My question is this: Should I just let it go and rely on the good friendships I have with several others or should I work my ass off to get one amazing one back? I've never been closer to anyone in my life, but she does bring a lot of drama to my life. Advice please??? (Very sorry for how long this post is, props to anyone who reads it all)
is she your best friend or not? for me, thats the biggest question in deciding to forgive someone - are they important enough for me to be willing to forgive this mistake on their part?
I think that it's definitely worth getting it back dude! You said you were best friends with her! And that you guys clicked so well. I think moving on without trying to fix this would be a decision that you would really regret in the coming months or years. If you two were really as close as you say you were then I highly recommend trying as hard as you can to get her friendship back. Think of all the good times you two have had (I'm guessing there are many considering you two have been best friends for years). Go for it dude!
I've gotten in tiffs with one of my best friends, but we always make up and we're still very close! Hmm, now that I think about it, it's usually a once a month thing and it's usually around the same time every month... Maybe each time she's just PMSing? I dunno
Try to get it back! Don't give up on her. I'm sure she needs you as much as you do her. And throwing something away that's been so great would be ridiculous. If you can forgive her drama and take it in stride, then you should try to make it work. Maybe give her a little time to cool off, then call her up and tell her you've been missing her. It'll soften her up. lol.
