I had my first one night stand recently. This marks 3 women that I have slept with in total in my 26 years. She was drunk that night though quite coherent, I was only a bit tipsy. However, we were both in our right minds the next morning when it happened again. It has been a long time for me (and I mean a LONG time), thus I devoted all of my attention to the moment. Only afterwards did I realize that I had just twice "made love" for nearly 6 hours, to a woman I had only met once or twice before. I only say that because there is a difference between "fucking" and "making love". You fuck somebody you just met, you make love to your wife or girlfriend. I have felt some level of guilt over the incident, though I cannot deny enjoying the experience. I have never wanted a woman I have slept with to feel used or to walk away thinking I am a "player". I would prefer that these memories be shared and remembered in good light and not looked upon with disdain and regret. I cant help, however, feeling that somehow I was the one that got used. Why is it that I cant simply enjoy an experience and walk away guilt free and happy? I must admit, and she did confess that she thought, it was it was amazing. Though she very well could have just been stroking my ego, so to speak. Nevertheless I would like to see her again to at least find out if that connection went beyond physical. Though I realize I cannot force or expect her to feel the same way. I have not bothered her, nor am I stalking her, calling her or anything of the like. I would simply like to find out if it could be something more. Do you all think I am wrong for feeling the way I do? Or should I just walk away? -ZenDragon-
Hell, give her a friendly call and see if she wants to meet up in a non-sexual way. If she was interested in more than a quick fuck, she'll love getting dinner or something. If all she wanted was sex, you might be able to hook it up again. There's nothing wrong with sex for sex's sake. You've got nothing to lose. Personally, I slept with my GF the first night, it was amazing but nothing more was expected, and we've been together for 2 years. The worst she'll say is "no" or possibly "who?" Hahaha Good Luck
I guess Im just not used to the concept of a one night stand. Ive been married for a while, and am now seperated so I suppose I just got used to the waking up every morning with the same woman.
I've done an about face regarding one night stands for numerous personal reasons. It's up to the individual really... there's no right or wrong for how you're feeling about what happened but you likely need to reconcile yourself with what happened and either cultivate a relationship or move on.
Yea I those certainly are my only two options. Im just having trouble coming to terms with the whole thing I suppose.
6 hours of foreplay and interoucrse and such... i doubt shes feeling used. maybe if you did a 1-2-pump-cum rolled over and fell asleep. but 6 hours? doubtful. i think you should look her up afterward though and see how you two feel about each other
I asked her out a couple weekends ago but she kind blew it off. Maybe she forgot, maybe she was busy, whatever. It just doesnt seem like she wants to make an effort to find out. Im just not sure how to approch her without sounding obsessive or clingy. You would think after being married for 6 years I would know how to talk to a woman. Its exactly the opposite however, I simply cant talk to women the way I talked to my wife! It will either get me slapped or get me nowhere! haha There doesnt seem to be any grey area with me. Im such a dork when it comes to this stuff... lol
id give it one more try (asking her out once more) and if she blows you off again give up, shes not interested in something permanent, she just wanted the trhill of a one night stand
