When things get beyond friendly...

I've been talking to this guy online for about three weeks now. We clicked immediately, and I admit that I haven't connected with someone like this in a long time. He's really sweet, funny, considerate.... just about the most perfect guy I could think of for me. And I find him physically attractive as well.


He began making little sexual jokes not long ago, and we "jokingly" turned that into a short naughty conversation. Since then, we've been talking more and more about these kinds of subjects and have been going further with what we say to one another. And I enjoy it, but I'm not sure how he means what he says.


I'm beginning to crush on him badly. He writes me first thing in the morning when he gets to work, makes sure he sends me a message to tell me goodnight before he goes to bed. We message a lot back and forth throughout the day (while he's at work). And he has a pet name for me. We've exchanged numbers but haven't talked on the phone yet. We miss each other if we don't get to converse everyday.


I suppose I just want to know if you think he's interested, just passing the time, or what? I mean, do most guys start these kinds of conversations with women if they're not interested? (He's such a shy guy.... I really see that as out of character. He's really not the type of guy to do this just to get his rocks off, especially not at work.) This "stage" always confuses the hell outta me. So any insight would be greatly appreciated.


Thanks a bunch!

 

Well speaking from experince, it's good that your thinking of asking him how far he intends to go, and you should do that. From experince, online relationships just lead to dead ends because you care more and more for someone as you talk and then you just did hurt when you realize you'll probably never seen them in real life...

So just keep it light and funny, as I recommend since I've been hurt alot with online relationships....

 

well, hes invested enough tim ethat he probably means something by it, at least in my opinion. best bet? call him up and ask if you two can grab coffee or something sometime, when plans ar emade say 'its a date'. when you two go on it, slip your hand in his and ta-dah romance is born or else its early enough for him to politely decline and say he just relaly loves joking about sex with you

 

Well the complication of us getting together is that he's in CT, and I'm in OH. So, this could become a complicated situation if things do develop, but the thing is, with this guy, I already know I'm willing to go through it. He does visit my state once in awhile to see his best friend.

But I can call him.

 

I've had bad experiences with online relationships in the past, too. So, I do know the risk of trying to make that work.

 

i'd say it's impossible to know what he's up to until you actually meet him, so i'd recommend trying to make some sort of meeting arrangements as soon as you can

 

Yeah, you're probably right.

The weird thing is, the last couple of days, since the conversations have really picked up between us, he is now MIA. I got one short message yesterday, and a couple the day before that. So now I'm completely confused. Why all the mixed messages??? I'm so irritated right now...

 

I had an experience where things got beyond friendly, but im enjoying it quite a bit...

 

Oh really?... Why dont you explain why you are enjoying it so much..

 

Like you don't know

Dont act all innocent, I know the REAL you

 

Oh and I know the real you too... I know more than you know I know

 

You tryin' to scare me?

If I told the world what you're up to.... *sigh*, now thats blackmail

 

It doesnt matter if the world knows what im up to... YOU know exactly what im up to

 

and you're glad I know... :drool:

 

And you are glad too, aren't you hmmm?

 

maybe...why do you wanna know, hmmm?

 

Oh come on
You know you are, and I know it

 

Fine...Miss-I-like-all-things-kinky :jester:

 

Ohh.. and how would you know that huh?

 

I speak from personal experience.... :nopity: