Cant think or act for myself or towards my goals.

I just sit infront of the computer and think about the type of person I wanna be, I dont do anything to work towards that. I wanna learn more about playing the guitar, and get involved in the arts. I just dont. I sit around on the computer. If not the computer then Ill watch TV. If I cant do either, I just walk around the house thinking about how bored I am. And when I ask myself what I want to do I just dont know, I dont know what I want. Anyoen know how I can break the habit and actually start doing the things I wanna do. And how do I know what I want?

If it helps, I think the reason I go on the computer is for human interaction (My mom doesnt trust the people I wanna hang out with, mostly because they arent christians.)

 

i know how you feel man, at times I am the same way

i also feel that the computer is my window to the world, especially the internets



but dont keep identifying yourself as a someone who is unable to do anything to alter his life


it would be best to do little things to improve your life, think differently, and learn as much as you can

you see something that intrests you, read about it, learn about it

trust me, it is easier said than done, but that doesnt mean its impossible

so you thinketh, so you reapeth

or however it goes

peace

 

its okay not to know what you want....

you already mentioned two things you want to do...

sit down make a list of things you want to do and try

then go thru the list and pick some that you feel are easier to accomplish

and try them....

keep your list when you think of something new add to it...every so often go thru your list to respark tho interests or change it ....

once you start marking a few off that you have done you will feel better and grow more confident for bigger challenges

remember its not a race ...its your life ...enjoy it

 

go outside pickup a rotten log see whats underneath

 

so, since you got the idea of the type of person you wanna be, think of ways you can eventually become that.

i always tell myself that i'd work out.. but i never do, mostly because im lazy.
but then i think about the outcome.. how much it'll benefit me, i'd be in shape, i'd look great, i'd feel great, and i know i'm not gonna get anywhere by just sitting around, and hoping that i'd miraculously get in shape by just sitting around doing nothing. its time to take action. now GO! lol

i need to start taking my own advice. lol
im not in shape yet. but i'll get back to ya when i do. its hard. lol..

 

the only person that can hold you back is yourself.

Granted, at 14 it's hard to do "everything" you may want to. But you have some simple ambitions figured out already. So just go for it

 

Dude it took me until two weeks ago to actually act on all the feelings i had had when i was your age and then i just took the steps and to tell you the truth you have to be ready. When the time is right you will know.

LP

 

Well, you sound like you've got a start, kid. I didn't know a damn thing about what I wanted to be when I was 14. First of all, I just want to say, don't go against things that come naturally to you. By that I mean, don't think that you want to be an artist and then completely ignore your astonishing ability to.... bake cakes, or something. Incorporate your natural talents into what you want to do.
Second, go online. Google "Guitar Classes in _____ (name of your city)". Just do it. And look at the classes, and get excited about getting out and learning something new. And then, sign up. It's as easy as that.

 

Yeah, like some other cats are saying, 14 is a funny age... in a few years you'll age and get your self started down the path, don't worry, hun. At 14, what the fuck was I doing? Just starting highschool, me thinks. Try and get through that first.

 

14 sucks, 15 sucks 16 sucks

17s okay


its best to learn skills younger. pick up a guitar look up some chords spens some time trying to play and transition. by the time youre seventeen youll be ready ot be in a band


love

 

this is the best advice in this thread