Every girl i like wants to be friends an no more

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by Tefloneddie, Aug 15, 2007.

  1. Tefloneddie

    Tefloneddie Member

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    Hi all

    I dunno weather im a oen off or there are others, but i always feel like any girls i like never half the same kiddanf eelign back i either get the i just wanna be firend or fuck off u stupiud **** (or other abusive comments).
    I know i ant igsacly the prittyest person in the world but i have a personality.
    i am fromt he uk and usaly the closest thign to a decent re;lation ship i get is over the inter net usaly with canadians or americans i no i dont have much confidance in my self though i express my self better onlien peopl get to knwo me withotu judging me by looks stight away i just wanna no any oen that has the same problem and anyoen that can help me with ideas on hwo to mayeb expresss my self better no i admti i do love american and candian women they are plesent with big persoanlitys but i dunno distance causes a problems.

    Thanks for any replys

    love ben xxx
     
  2. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    i have the exact same problem, except i know how to spell and women still aren't romatically interested in me, so my advice is work on something else first
     
  3. SLAMDNK123

    SLAMDNK123 Member

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    Ahh, please spellcheck next time. Other than that, I know where you're coming from exactly. I have the same problem. I got some really sound advice from one of my friends and plan on using it when I go back to college in a week.

    - Do your best to be physically attractive. Regardless of genetic looks, stay well-shaven or have appealing facial hair. Dress nice. Just look clean.
    - Don't be a puppy dog, available at all times. Even if you aren't, act busy sometimes. Don't ALWAYS be there when she wants to hang out. Don't avoid her, but don't hang out with her every day.
    - Act like you want to date her. Don't be too outright/intense, but ask her on a date. Go somewhere romantic. Open doors for her, pay for meals, give -occasional- compliments.
    - Make physical contact...touch her arm during a conversation or something.
    -
     
  4. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    i think that's my problem, but then it seems like if i leave them alone for a couple days they forget about me and find some asshole that will hang out with them every day and just be a dick about it, so i don't know
     
  5. its_des10e

    its_des10e Member

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    Actually, this sounds pretty straight forward and is good advice.

    ~ Of course women don't want to go out with a slob... lol. If she takes over an hour to look nice for you, you can take twenty minutes to do something. ;)

    ~ The problem with the last guy who I tried to hook up with was that he was always calling, always around. If we didn't talk every single day, he would call me and ask where I've been. Sometimes I just need a break. Sometimes I'm busy. Sometimes I like to do the chasing. :)

    ~ Yeah, here's the place of utter confusion always. Guys (and girls, too) always get "friended" before they have a chance to start because intentions aren't always clear from the beginning. If a guy is into me, I want to know so I can let him know from the get-go if I'm interested or could be in the near future. And yes, I do think a woman knows soon after meeting someone if she would go out with them, sleep with them, whatever. Be a gentleman. Women love that (most, anyway). And occaisional compliments are good, but don't overdo it.

    ~ A little physical contact is always a good idea. Just don't hang all over her like she's your property. And if she repays the favor, gets touchy feely with you, then she's more than likely interested.
     
  6. Tefloneddie

    Tefloneddie Member

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    thansk for the replys and i have to say its all greta infomation i just dont no how i can open my self up more i have no confidance cos i either get totaly shuttend for bean me i cant change me cos i am who i am I have no confidannce at all if any oen otu there feels leikt hey want to help me buidl my confidance up as ell it woudl eb ncie i dunno what i can do to gain confidance nto any mroe any way every tiem i ahve in the past ive got shuttend batterd bruised and jsut mentaly fucked over :( thanks peps xxx
     
  7. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    i've heard typing class is a great way to boost confidence...
     
  8. His Eden

    His Eden Queen of Mean

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    You could try taking classes or joining clubs or groups that will help you with social skills without the stress of trying to find a relationship. Find something that interests you, and go for it. You may not find a date, but it will help you gain confidence. By gaining confidence you will realize your own value. After that finding a date should be much easier.

    Few things turn men or women off more than someone that lacks confidence in themselves. Act like a doormat and you are sure to be treated like one.

    Good luck!
     

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