How best deal with obsessive thinking problem?

My relationship ended after 2 years. Now I think about her all the time and it is hard to sleep at night.

How can I solve this problem?

Anyone else have similar problems?

 

Id say jus try and move on - get a hobbie, meet new people and keep ya mind of it but then again ive never had that problem...

 

I had a simliar problem with an ex girlfriend when I was in college, though it didn't last quite as long. For me what helped the most was when I began really taking responsibility for my part in the relationship -- and it's demise. After she first broke up with me, I spent so long just being angry at her for breaking my heart that I never really took the time to step back and look at the situation from a distance. The truth was I wasn't anymore happy with my relationship with her then she was with me, I was just content to settle for less -- she wasn't. For me, I had to realize that my heartache was not based on losing her, it was based souly on the idea that I was alone and scared.

I don't believe in destiny. I think when confronted with trauma or turmoil you're really only presented two options at the end of the day.. to let it drag you down and hold you there -- or to rise above it. Hopefully, sooner or later, the later happens.

Much peace ~
goo

 

If you can, go somewhere for a while, get out of the city

if you can't do that, just do things you've never done before, go out with your friends, keep yourself busy

 

Ok i agree with goo, so much that I really felt I had nothing to add but this... after looking at both of your roles in the relationship and its demise, think about what you want in a lifemate, if she doesn't add up to all of it, look for someone who does. and just to let you know if at any point in time you felt like you truly loved her, sadly enough you will never forget it. but when you do think about her, it will usually be the good times, enjoy the memory and be happy that you got to expericence that and just leave it at that. don't let it lead to the negative thoughts about the break up and how lonely you are.... there are worst things in the world than being lonely..... don't know of many, but it hasn't killed me yet so I doubt it will you either!!!!!!!!!

laterdayz
niem