Hello, can somebody help with this? I have a problem. I am DEFINATELY not impotent. I get a rock hard erection before sex. The problem is that when I'm about to put it in it goes from rock hard to soft then I can't get it back up again until it's totally over with. I know it is definately performance anxiety and I've tried relaxing time and time again. I don't know whether it's because I need to get to know the girl better or what. This is really bothering me now and it will effect my relationship. I'll have to get this sorted but I've heard of some pills that blocks anxiety. Does anyone know of it or has anybody any other advice please? Thanks
Part of it definitely is comfort and see if you can get more comfortable with the girl... and even have her help you as far as turning you on. I think how you'd deal with it also depends on the scenario, as it'd be different if it were a girl you are in a serious relationship with versus something casual. But see if you can have her help you with it: do things to turn you on when you're about to do it, maybe even try getting used to being hard in sex-like positions so that the transition to sex itself is less dramatic. And you could always try to just not orgasm for a while prior, to keep yourself extra turned on at the time.
