This is kinda long but any advice would be MUCH welcomed! New year, I had sex for 1st and only time with my ex - I felt a slight pain, more a feeling of discomfort but nothing I wasn't expecting.We were only using condoms,no other form of birth control. Now I'm with my boyfriend (not the guy who was my 1st), he was a virgin and we've had sex a few dozen times now but it's really,really painful. *But* this time for the duration of the times we have had sex I've been on my 1st ever contraceptive injection for the 1st month and am experiancing irregular bleeding which aren't my periods. However I went to the docs and she said this was normal and she also tested me for any STI's,UTI and pregnancy - all were negative. Fair play my boyfriend's substantially 'bigger' than my ex but it isn't the actual penatration that hurts.It's during that's the worst - when I'm on top.Going slow is fine but doesn't seem to do anything for him,but when he goes fast...ouch.It's like I really really really need to pee but it's not uncomfortable - it's a physical pain in my lower abdomen. I have no clue what to do cos atm I'm feeling a bit of a failure of a girlfriend cos it isn't doing anything for him and I want to make him happy but it just hurts too much.On top of this after sex I'm bleeding.Not loads but enough. I've told the doctor this also and she's saying everything's fine but it doesn't help me at all. Any suggestions would be great! Thank you
That is weird, mabe he is penetrating too deep, try having sex when your really wet, or use lube to make sure that is not part of the problem. You should never feel bad that your not pleasuring him because it is hurting you. And i hope he is not making you feel bad. I'm sure if you look up pain during sex on google or something you could find possible reasons, your doctor doesnt seem to be helping at all. Do you pee before sex, that could relieve some pressure, other then that have sex in a position where he won't go so deep, like missionary with your legs down and together, it feels good for him and it's not as deep.
if it feels like you need to pee, then he is probably hitting your g-spot, it happens that some women feel the need to pee when there g-spot is stimulated, because it is close to the bladder (or sumthin like that =/) hmm how about a bit more lube? that may help, get the lube that will make your insides tingle. What about forplay? or are u soaked wet when you have sex? maybe you need to try a new position? how about doggy? hmm i hope this helped some =/ best of luck gettin help
Thanks for replies.its so wierd cos i pee before sex but still its really like somones pressing my bladder.isnt hitting the G spot meant to be a good thing?lol if thats what's happening i dont like it lol.Hmm well if anything improves/gets worse ill keep youy posted. Thanks!
